The Role of the Weird Sisters – An Analysis of the Vampire Women in Bram Stoker's Dracula

The three vampire women who inhabit the more remote regions of Count Dracula's castle are of great significance to the narrative. Stoker's depiction of them could be considered to embody the very worst Victorian nightmares regarding womanhood. Jonathan Harker's reactions after his encounter with them also convey late nineteenth-century anxieties concerning the feminization of men.

Female gender identities were narrowly defined in Victorian society. Women were generally considered to be of two types, either the doting wife and mother, or the fallen woman. The vampire women, or 'weird sisters ', as Harker calls them – referencing the three witches from Macbeth – could be considered an exaggerated literary equivalent of these fallen women. With their "brilliant white teeth" (p.37) and "voluptuous lips" (p.37), they are portrayed as overtly sexual beings. Their appearance and behavior stand in stark contrast to that of Jonathan's fiancée, the virtuous Mina, who he describes as having "naught in common" (p.53) with the vampire women.

During his seduction, Jonathan's reactions to the weird sisters are decidedly ambivalent: "There was a deliberate voluptuousness which was both thrilling and repulsive" (p.38). He encounters them in a far-flung chamber of Castle Dracula whilst in an ambiguous state of consciousness, a common motif in Gothic literature: "I suppose I must have fallen asleep; I hope so, but I fear, for all that followed was startlingly real "(p.37). Viewed from within a Victorian context, Harker is portrayed in a somewhat feminized position, with the gender roles reversed, in that he is a man being seduced by women, when in nineteenth-century society men would be expected to assume the role of seducer.

It is arguable that the actions of the vampire women in their seduction of Harker represent newfound anxieties about the emergence of the New Woman. The New Woman was a type of woman who challenged the prevailing Victorian notions of womanhood. Although Mina could be considered a New Woman, with her financial independence gained from having a career before marriage, she discusses this class of women with disdain. Regarding attitudes to marriage, she states that "I suppose the New Woman will not condescend in future to accept; she will do the proposing herself" (p.89). It would appear that in their seduction of Harker, the female vampires could be considered New Women in light of Mina's remarks.

Within the context of Gothic literature, Stoker confronts several conventions, one of these being through the role of Jonathan Harker in Dracula's castle. In eighteenth-century Gothic novels, such as Ann Radcliffe's influential The Mysteries of Udolpho, it is a young woman – of a 'tremulous sensitivity' and much prone to fainting – who finds herself ensnared in a remote castle and at the mercy of male predators . In Dracula Stoker has subverted convention by having a male character in this role, a detail consolidated by Harker's reaction to his grisly encounter with the vampire women: "the horror overcame me, and I sank down unconscious" (p.39). He is a man assuming the role typically occupied by women in Gothic narrative.

Mina's role as a New Woman is supported further during her encounter with the weird sisters much later in the story. The vampire women are shown to beckon to Mina, referring to her as 'sister' in their invitation to join their ranks.

Jonathan's "agony of delightful anticipation" (p.38) when being seduced by the vampires is echoed in Van Helsing's own anxieties when staking the undead women. He also notes the women's sexual appeal in similar tones to Harker: "She was so fair to look on, so radiantly beautiful, so exquisitely voluptuous", (p.370). If Victorian masculinity could be undermined through the threat posed by sexually attractive women, then Van Helsing's staking of the female vampires could be considered a reassertion of male patriarchy.

Source by Ben H Wright

Love Readings and the Chariot Tarot Card

In a love Tarot reading, the Chariot Tarot card is a symbol of energy, action, courage and success. The Chariot card is a symbol of our intentions, and if it is love you seek, the Chariot often signifies the onset of new romantic experiences or relationships.

In a Love Tarot reading, The Chariot can also represent changes in one's relationship. The Chariot Tarot card often urges one to redirect their energy towards one's own goals, and if you have been consumed by your current relationship, the Chariot reminds you to put the focus back onto yourself.

Traditionally, the Chariot Tarot card is the card of triumph and victory. In a reading, the Chariot references one's ability to accomplish their goals. More importantly, the Chariot symbolizes balance. In this regard, he represents one's capacity to manage one's instincts or primal drives. He represents true will power and his appearance in a Tarot reading often signifies the need to direct one's energy and ambitions with intention and confidence.

The element of balance also has implications in a love Tarot reading. The Chariot often signifies the need to balance one's relationship with one's own ambitions. If you are career focused, then you need to be sure you do not neglect your emotional and personal life, and if you are family focused, you need to be sure you take time for yourself and pursue the things that are important to you.

The Chariot's appearance in a Love reading can be a sign that one must take control of their life. He can represent the individual that has become consumed by their emotions or has issues with losing control. The Chariot in a reversed position can often indicate feelings of being out of control or overwhelmed. No matter what the situation is, the Chariot always urges you to find balance in your own life, and this can be particularly true with one's intimate relationships.

Source by Carolyn Naiman

5 Top Questions Before Divorcing A Passive Aggressive Husband

Are You Considering Divorcing Your Passive Aggressive Husband ?

The decision to divorce anyone, is a very difficult one, but it can be especially hard if you are married to a passive aggressive. Because one day he is acting nice to you, and seems as loving and nurturing as the day you married, and then the next day, he is making your life hell, It can make you question your decisions about divorcing your husband.

Today, we'll be sharing with you the top 5 questions you should be asking yourself.

How Do You Make Your Decision?

Notice that these questions are issues you need to answer order to prepare for what happens after divorcing him:

1. How Much Pain Do You Have To Suffer To Be Able To Say "STOP, No More"?

Within your passive aggressive marriage, you have been giving up your own dreams to satisfy your husband's child-like need for support and attention. Whether out of love or fear, you learned to stop talking about the things that you wanted, because it made him jealous and angry.

Not only that, you have lost your dignity, by having to be a mother and a wife to your husband. You've had to squash your own thoughts, opinions and ideas to keep "the man of the house" pleased and calm – it's either your dignity or peace, and peace is what keeps a family together, right?

Except that, when your dignity is trashed, and when you go allow with his game of passive aggressiveness, he forces you to give up your self-respect, as well. Remember that he's passive aggressive – he will not just take your self-esteem and self-respect, he'll make you give it up willingly, which is all the more heart-breaking.

How Much Is Enough? Is Today Enough? When Will It Be?

2. Where Is Your Self-Esteem?

Divorcing your husband requires a little self-esteem – you have to feel that you deserve equal treatment before demanding it. You will not be full of confidence for a while (it will take time to heal), but you can get on the right track by looking at how your husband has hurt your self-esteem and how divorcing your husband will help you get your self-esteem back.

How do you know that you have diminished self-esteem? You do not trust your ideas or gut feelings, you wait for permission / confirmation from others about actions, you second guess decisions about what is best for you and select poor options, you do not think that you can make a good life for you or your children without someone else's help. All of these need to be recognized in yourself so that you can see how deeply entrenched in your husband's game you are. You need to break of the mentality that "I can not live without this man as my husband." You can, and you have to show him that you can.

3. How Are You Going To Avoid Feeling Guilty?

In a marriage where gender roles are strict, or if you come from a family where you were taught to be a "proper" woman, being invited to focus on yourself and your life purposes can make you feel guilty. They told you that you were in this life to take care and serve others (namely your husband), and focusing on making yourself happy can feel like a terrible thing to do.

Meanwhile, your husband has told that you are not able to survive without others helping you (making you a psychic cripple). He'll do anything he can to make you feel like you're "abandoning" a "loving" husband, a "perfect" family, your kids, your livelihood, your dignity, or anything else within reach he can throw at you.

How are you going to avoid his guilt trip, or that of society? A good place to start is questions 1 and 2. Compare what the guilt-trippers say to what you really know. Is there any possible logical reason, at all, that you should feel guilty for leaving an abusive husband?

4. How Will You Detach From Him Before Leaving?

Here is a danger involved with divorcing your passive aggressive husband: your husband, knowing exactly what you have been waiting all those years to have (a loving, understanding companion to share life), will now promise that all that will happen. And a part of you thinks: what if I leave now and he was finally going to deliver the answer to my dreams? It's like waiting for a shooting star to pass: you have not seen one, but you're haunted by the idea that one will pass just as you turn away.

This is what you need to be prepared for. What should your response be? Tell yourself the truth. Ask yourself, why is he telling me this? What has been waiting for, if he's really capable of it? Realize that his speech is a verbal mirage that he is weaving to keep you here (without asking for more and or leaving, because you'll now wait patiently). He knows what you need and want perfectly; he has been manipulating you all this time (dangling the "happy marriage" carrot in front of you), telling you that he can be the person you need.

Tell yourself that it is a false promise; either he can not or will not deliver that kind of relationship.

To detach before divorcing your husband means looking reality in the face and tell yourself: "Whatever he says, he was unable to deliver before, and he can not deliver this in the future. I must not be lured by false promises; he is doing this to break my resolve, knowing damn well what I have been wishing for and waiting for all our married life. "

5. What Will My New Life Look Like ?

Imagining your new life, pain-free, abuse-free, is extremely important. Maybe you're going to pursue that college degree you never received, or the position at work that requires you to move to a new city. Perhaps you're going to spend more time with the kids or with some distant family. Whatever it is that your passive aggressive husband has been holding you back from, now is the time to seize it and realize that you can finally do it.

Your husband will try to lure you back by conjuring up images of your "perfect marriage" and the "good life" you have together, about how he's a "great provider" and a "loving partner." You may need to rehearse a speech, or bring cards, or have something other reminder with you that will help you focus on what you're really trying to say: "You've hurt me, and I will not let you do it anymore. I can not stay with you. "

Your road to divorcing your passive aggressive husband will be a bumpy one, and you need a guide that you can trust. Talk to our marriage coach, Dr. Nora, to get personal feedback on your situation and in-depth relationship coaching on how to tell your passive aggressive husband that you want a divorce.

Source by Nora Femenia

Successful Business Partnerships

Going into business with a partner can greatly increase your chances of business success, because a partner can offer their own connections, expertise, and skills the business needs in becoming successful. Following are eight successful business partnerships that not only changed the lives of the business partners, but changed the world forever.

Apple
Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak- both Jobs and Wozniak were known as outcasts, but together they formed a friendship that would have them build one of world's most famous technological companies in the world. This famous duo had been introduced by their mutual friend Bill Fernandez in 1971 when Jobs was 16 and Wozniak 21. Wozniak had shown Jobs his simple built computer machine. This impressed Jobs and he believed he could sell the machine for a profit. It was Wozniak's computer engineering abilities combined with Job's marketing abilities that led to what we now know as Apple, Inc. In 2008, Apple had reported revenues of $ 33.04Billion and profits of $ 11.15Billion annually.

Dixie Chicks
Martie & Emily Erwin and Natalie Maines- the Dixie Chicks started with sisters Martie and Emily Erwin who played music on the street corners of Dallas for small change. The sisters later invited Natalie Maines to join their country music rock group. As of 2008 the Dixie Chicks have won 13 Grammy awards with over 27 million in record sales for their first three albums.

Dolce and Gabbana (D & G)
Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbanna- this world famous design duo met while working as assistants at an atelier in Milan. Sharing a strong passion for fashion, they made their name together in 1985 when Milano Collezioni invited them to take part in a fashion show launch. By 1997, their company had a reported turnover of â'¤400Million.

Google
Larry Page and Sergey Brin- Google started in 1996 as a research project by Page while he was undertaking his Ph.D at Stanford University. Page was joined by Sergey Brin, also a Stanford University PhD student. Together they worked day and night to create the largest and most popular search engine in history. In 2006 Google reported an advertising revenue of US $ 10.492 billion and in March 2009 Google's market cap was reported at $ 103.15Billion.

Kate Moss
Kate Moss and Sarah Doukas- Kate Moss, age 14, was approached by Sarah Doukas-founder-Storm Model Management in the JFK Airport in New York City after returning from a family holiday vacation. Kate Moss since then has appeared on over 300 magazine covers and is rated as number two on the Forbes 15 richest supermodels list.

Microsoft
Bill Gates and Paul Allen- met and had become friends at Lakeside School in Seattle. Gates and Allen worked day and night together to create the first microcomputer basic. This led to the creation of one of the most successful and largest US corporations in history, as well as placing Gates and Allen among the richest people in the world.

Proactiv
Dr. Katie Rodan and Dr. Kathy Fields- met during their medical residences at Stanford University. In working together they were able to create one of the best selling acne treatments known as Proactiv® Soultions with over $ 850Million in sales annually.

Siegfried & Roy
Martin Siegfried and Roy Horn-shared more than just their love for magic. They both had fathers who were abusive alcoholics and soldiers of Hitler's army. Determined to leave their difficult pasts behind them, Siegfried and Roy had taken positions to work on the same ocean liner. It was here on the ocean liner they met and discovered they shared a passion and desire to perform their magic before live audiences. This connection would lead them to achieving the most sold out, gross profit producing show in Vegas history with an annual payment of $ 36Million per year. A quote by Siegfried and Roy on their website could not be any more perfect in describing their success, "We followed our dreams, for dreams were all we had. In the process our lives became magical."

Source by Genyfer Spark

What Are the Goals and Objectives of a Team Building Workshop?

In any Organisation, and at any level, a facilitated Team Building workshop can be a possible route to improve the Team and to foster high performance. A Team is a powerful entity, as we know from sport. A high performing Team not only achieves success, but also has dynamism and an energy that nurtures individual high achievement and a high degree of job satisfaction.

The Overall Objective

The overall objective of any Team Building Workshop should be that your Team is further down the road towards achieving the status of a high performing Team. This is a useful theme for the workshop, as it keeps the Team thinking forward to where we want to be, and planning how we can get from where we are now to the forward vision.

This fundamental objective gives us a framework that should be part of any Team Building Workshop –

1. Where are we now?
2. Where do we want to be?
3. How will we get there?

This framework can be used on a Team Build Workshop to address either or both of the 2 separate branches of the Team's goals and objectives –

1. The Team's objectives regarding our Team purpose, our Team goals and performance targets
2. The Team's objectives regarding our Teamwork, how we effectively we work together to achieve our Team purpose and objectives

Both strands will come together at the end of the Team Building workshop, in the form of strategies, plans and actions to take us forward.

Team Purpose Objectives and Goals

When addressing our Team Goals and achievements in a Team Building Workshop, it is useful to begin with a fresh look at your Team purpose and where it fits in the Organisation purpose. It is also important to identify the Organisation 'strategic goals and the goals the Organisation has given the Team, as this is our context.

The objective in a Team Building Workshop then is to ask ourselves –

1. How well placed are we to achieve our Team Goals?
2. What are our strengths as a Team? What have we got to achieve these goals?
3. What is blocking, or preventing us from achieving?
4. What do we need to improve or develop to achieve success?

Our Goals in terms of Teamwork

Teamwork is the way we work together to achieve our goals. It includes our values, attitudes, relationships, and Team processes. The key to removing blocks and moving forward in a Team is to identify what PROCESS can we use to improve on this issue? There will always be a Team process that will improve relationship issues, effective work practices or blocks to high performance.

To move forward as a Team, it is useful to think in terms of Tuckman's Stages of Team Development. This will give us a good objective framework to identify where we are, and where we want to be.

In the Team Building Workshop, the Team can –

1. Review and assess their current Stage of Team Development
2. Identify their future vision, where we want to be as a Team. This involves both a vision and clearly identified goals.
3. Identify clear short term goals, the next steps we must achieve to move them to the next level
4. Plan how we will do this, strategies and actions to achieve those next steps.

Planning the Team's Way Forward

Taking the 2 strands of goals together, the Team can sift out the mission critical areas for future development. A good Team Building Workshop should finish with a brainstorm and planning session so that the Team has a plan for improving each specific issue. They leave with action plans and new Team Processes to enable the Team to work effectively together.

Source by Kate Tammemagi

Attracting New Customers To Your New Catering Business

So you have set up your dream catering business? How do you go about getting new customers? Here are a few tips:

Website

Your catering business should have its own website complete with sample menus, customer testimonials and references, pictures of some of your presentations, pictures of your food and, of course, all of your contact information. You can also advertise your website on the Internet through pay per click ads, search engine optimization for appropriate localized phrases and advertise on local community websites.

Wedding Directories

Some of the biggest customers for catering companies are wedding receptions. Get your ad or pitch in front of brides, grooms and wedding planners. You can advertise in local wedding newsletters, newspaper sections and magazines. Advertise online by getting listed in every major wedding directory, some may require a fee, but if they have good traffic to their directory, the ad should pay for itself many times over in new customers.

Partnering

Establish good relationships with wedding planners, florists, party stores etc. Once you have done a good job for one wedding planner, for instance, they will send you more business in the future. You can even give discounts to wedding planners who recommend your services, this further increases the chances of them recommending your catering business in the future.

Word Of Mouth

Word of mouth is one of the best ways to expand your business. When you have done a stellar job serving one wedding event, the people at the wedding will remember your food and may think of your business for their own weddings, parties and other events.

Good PR

Also under the category of word of mouth is good PR, or public relations. Send out press releases, try to get a feature article in the local food section, contribute articles to food and catering related magazines and newspapers. Do a great job at every event you cater so people will remember your company.

Flyers

Distribute flyers in your community and to local businesses. Businesses often have parties for birthdays, company anniversaries, company picnics and holiday parties, and they usually will need a caterer for these events.

Yellow Pages

Despite the ubiquitousness of the Internet these days, many people still rely on the yellow pages to find businesses in their community. Make sure to place your ad in the caterers section of your local yellow pages, it's well worth the cost.

Using these tips, you should be able to attract new customers to your catering business to keep it prospering for many years to come.

Source by Lydia Quinn

Is The Sex Always Better In the Affair Than In The Marriage?

Much of the time, when people mention affair sex, they assume that it is so good that it is almost mind blowing. They assume that it has to be this good in order to make it worth the risk. Many spouses who have someone cheat on them also make this assumption, even if their spouse does everything in his power to insist that this is not true.

For example, you might hear a conversation like this: "my husband is trying to claim that his affair was not about sex. In fact, he's insisting that the sex was not even good. He says that sex is better with me and that the other woman did not really know what he likes. But he says that the point of the affair was never about the sex. he was supposedly attracted to her because she listened to and supported him, or so he claims. I think that he is just saying this because he does not want for me to have hang ups about sex if we stay together. Every one knows that affair sex is good, do not they? "

Well, everyone assumes this. But I've had people comment that their affair was most definitely not about sex, just like this husband. Many of them say that the affair was more about excitement, emotional attachment and support, and having someone who seems to appreciate them without expectations.

For example, a husband might say: "when people see the other woman, they always assume that I was only in it for the sex. I was not. I will not say that we did not have sex because we did. but that was never the draw for me. I have been friends with the other woman for a long time. I made some bad investments that meant that I had to cut back on my spending. This made me wife treat me differently. She was always mad and she was always making sarcastic comments about me. The other woman is not like that. she's happy to just go and have a picnic lunch and talk. she does not expect me to buy her things and she does not want to be taken care of. She's content with just me. This is such a huge relief when contrasted with the expectations of my wife. "

I hear these sorts of comments a lot. And I hear them from people who have no reason to lie to me. I do not know their spouses so I can not possibly put in a good word for them. They just want to unload their feelings onto someone, which is often why they had an affair in the first place.

And I am not saying that this excuses them. There are no excuses. But, I think affairs based on emotions are just as dangerous, if not more so, than affairs that are based on sex. Anytime your spouse gets their marital needs met by someone else, that's a problem.

But many therapists and professions will tell you that an affair is so much more than just sex. I'm not a professional, but I certainly do believe this. Sex is only one aspect of the relationship, but it is certainly not the only aspect.

Many people can not possibly believe that a man would risk his marriage or his family for bad sex. The thing is, sex is not his payoff. His payoff is getting his emotional needs met. His payoff is the fact that the other woman does not make him feel pressured. She makes him feel relevant again.

Now, is this reality? Most definitely not. If the affair continued on, it's very likely that the other woman would develop expectations over time. People love to think that their affair partner does not want anything from them or does not have expectations or demands. But it is not realistic to expect that things are always going to be this way. The more serious and long term the relationship, the more expectations there are going to be.

And then this happens, the husband will often lose interest because he can get the expectations at home without much trouble at all.

Of course, the original question was about sex so let's go back to that. Many people will tell you that affair sex is wonderful and some of them truly believe that. But most people will tell you that sex with the same person over time (like your spouse) is also good sex because that person knows you. They know what you like and what you do not like. You've likely fine tuned your physical connection over the long term.

The person in the affair can not say this. The relationship is often just beginning. Sure, there's a bit of novelty but even that wears off quickly. Sometimes the sex starts off being perceived as good or even great, but once it's no longer new, it's nothing special.

I can not possibly tell you or guess at what the sex was like with your husband and the other woman. But I can tell you that not everyone says that the affair sex was always good. Many will tell you that it was nothing special, but that was fine with them because the intercourse was not the draw. The way the other person managed to make them feel was the draw. Or the relief they felt from some stressor or short coming was the draw.

Source by Katie Lersch

Marriage Advice: Eight Steps to Marital Harmony

The formula for marital harmony and success is not a mysterious secret. It's actually very straightforward.

The "behind the scenes" part is the constant work that's required to keep the channels of love and communication clear from obstruction. Diligent spouses consistently spend time and energy addressing issues as they come up so that anger and hurt feelings do not accumulate.

Spouses who want satisfying marriages also look for ways to keep their love strong, such as remembering to show affection and appreciation frequently. They know that the more they feel connected and bonded, the more motivated they will be to resolve problems and hang in there when things are difficult.

The following eight steps will guide you in looking at what you can do to increase your chances for creating a happy, harmonious marriage:

1. Work on yourself and your own issues that you brought with you into the marriage.

Many responses that you have to your spouse's actions are triggered by past events going back to your childhood. If one of your emotional wounds is feeling disrespected, then when your partner inadvertently does something that triggers those feelings, you'll experience an intense reaction. Individual counseling can help you to be more self-aware of what's behind your intense reactions and what you can do so that you do not over-react to issues in your marriage.

2. Avoid blaming your partner for problems in the marriage.

Blame only causes the other person to become defensive and angry, and it decreases the probability that the two of you can find a win-win solution to your problems. When you focus on blaming your spouse for what's happening in the marriage, you are planting seeds of resentment that can hurt the relationship. A marriage is composed of two people, and each contributes to the quality of the relationship and shares responsibility for it.

3. Be empathetic and put yourself in your partner's place when issues come up.

Really try to understand where your partner is coming from when you disagree or when your partner does something that you can not make sense of. Ask your spouse to talk about his or her feelings. Listen respectfully and ask your spouse to clarify points that you do not understand. Develop a curiosity for learning more about your spouse's feelings and take special care to create an emotionally safe environment for the discussions with your spouse.

4. Look for ways to make your partner 's life easier and to show your love.

Many of the irritants and stressors in modern day life are the little things — the extra time it takes to pick up the cleaning on the way home from work or to put the clean dishes in the dishwasher away. When you see some errand or task that you can do to save your partner time, offer to do it.

Look for opportunities to give your spouse a few minutes to relax or have downtime. Watch for things you can do to pamper your partner when you can. It's often the little things that can make a big difference in marital happiness and satisfaction.

5. Express appreciation often and say form the habit of saying "thank you."

As months and years go by, many spouses take each other for granted and neglect to express appreciation or say "thank you" to each other. Numerous spouses complain that their partners only focus on what they do wrong and never compliment them.

It's sad to think that the one person who means the most to you might have to wonder whether or not you appreciate them. Let your spouse know how much he or she means to you on a frequent basis. Give compliments and praise freely, and express thanks for all that your partner does to enrich your life and marriage.

6. Apologize quickly and sincerely, taking responsibility for your part in whatever happens in the marriage.

The truth is that sometimes it's hard to say "I'm sorry." That's when it's time to remember the question, "Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?"

Accept that things do not always make sense in a relationship and that confusion and misunderstandings can happen easily. It's a mark of maturity when you can say, "I'm so sorry for my part in what has happened between us."

7. Have interests, hobbies and activities in your life that you enjoy so you're not thrown off center so easily if you have a tiff or quarrel with your spouse.

It's important to have interests and activities of your own that are satisfying to you that can help to keep you balanced and anchored if other areas of your life are upsetting. That way, you can more easily regain a sense of perspective and be able to withstand the on-going stress.

For example, if you and your spouse are encountering some rocks along the relationship path, you could go on a long bike ride, go fishing with a friend, visit a museum, or read an interesting book. Those activities and interests can add pleasure to your life to help balance out the temporary problems in your marriage. You're always ahead of the game when you know some ways to lift your spirits.

8. Look for fun activities and bonding experiences to share with your mate.

Be on the lookout for activities that could be fun for you and your spouse to do together. Search the local newspaper for plays, concerts, new movies, museum exhibits, neighborhood fairs and festivals, and new restaurants that are advertised. Laughter and having fun is bonding and can help to create those "Kodak moments" that are so delightful.

Also look for activities that represent causes you and your spouse believe in, such as spending a Saturday helping a local charity with a garage sale or volunteering together at a local soup kitchen. These experiences can serve to remind you of what you have in common with your spouse and of how good it feels to be working in unison with a shared purpose.

Source by Nancy Wasson

Spiritual Isolation in Carson McCullers' The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter

In analyzing the novel of Carson McCullers' The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter, the author uses three Sociological Theories of Peter L. Berger and Thomas Luckman on 'Socialization: The Internalization of Society', Presentation of Self in Everyday Life by Eving Goffman and Emile Durkheim's "Social Facts" and "Suicide" to probe on the motives and behavior of characters, the reasons of their loneliness, hatred, love, faith, inner conflict and their moral and spiritual isolation.

Only when he has achieved this degree of internalization is an individual a member of society. The process by which this is brought about by socialization, which may be thus be defined as the comprehensive and consistent introduction of an individual into the objective world of society or a sector of it. Primary socialization is the first socialization an individual undergoes which he becomes a member of society. Secondary socialization is any subsequent process that inducts an already socialized individual into new sectors of the objective world of his society.

It is at once evident that primary socialization is usually the most important one for an individual and that the basic structure of all secondary socialization has to resemble that of primary socialization. Every individual is born into an objective social structure within which he encounters the significant others who are in charge of his socialization. The significant others are imposed on him … The significant others who mediate this world to him modify it in the course of mediating it. It is noteworthy to say that all five major characters in the novel exhibit their own location in the social structure and also by virtue of their individual, biographically rooted idiosyncrasies. The coloration of the characters, their suffering and how they respond to it, whether social, emotional, psychological or mental is wholly affected by their significant others. Hence, traits like reticence or loquacity, prudence or tactlessness, contentment or discontentment, bitter resentment, rebelliousness or other characters of the parents or siblings may be absorbed.

Primary socialization involves emotional learning. Indeed, there is a good reason to believe that without such emotional attachment to significant others, the learning process would be difficult if not impossible .. The child identifies with the significant others in a variety of emotional ways.

What is important to consider is the fact that the individual not only takes on the roles and attitudes of others, but in the same process takes on their world. To be given an identity involves being assigned a specific place in the world. Because the identity is subjectively appropriated by the child or person (Mr. Singer, deaf-mute), so is the world is the world to this identity points.

Primary socialization creates in the child's consciousness a progressive abstraction from the roles and attitudes of specific others to roles and general. For example, in the internalization of norms, there is a progression, from Mick Kelly as boyish to Mick Kelly as ladylike, Bubber from childish to isolated child after he accidentally shot Baby.

After the primary socialization is internalized, it is the language that a child has to internalize. With language, and by means of it, various motivational and interpretative schemes are internalized as institutionally defined-wanting to act as a brave little boy, the word brave if internalized results to a brave boy and coward to a coward boy. This program both, the applicable and the anticipatory, differentiate one's identity from that of others- such as girls, slave boys or boys from another clan. Finally, there is internalization of rudiments of the legitimating apparatus.

Primary and secondary socialization are never total and never finished.

Goffman says that when an individual appears in the presence of others, there will usually be some reason for him to mobilize his activity so that it will convey an impression to others that is in his interests to convey.

He approaches the human being as an actor performing on stage. In summary, he explains that others seek to know who we are. We control our actions to give off the picture we want to give off; others will also seek to act to control the definition of the situation; a working consensus is created; ongoing interaction may question the picture and preventive tactics help preserve the interaction and keep actors from the embarrassment.

John Singer is the focal point of the other four main characters in The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter. Chapters narrated from Singer's point of view open the and close the first and second parts of the novel. The deaf-mute, as the society or his secondary socialization has identified him, Singer is a silver engraver at a local jewelry store; for ten years he has lived with his close friend Spiros Antonapoulos, another deaf-mute. Singer never seems to realize that he puts almost all of the effort into his friendship with Antonapoulos, but he is happy in this obliviousness. After Antonapoulos is taken away to an insane asylum at the end of Part One, Singer grows very sad and lonely and moves in as a boarder with the Kelly family. Antonapalous is considered by Singer as his immediate significant other and that his actions are largely affected by his friend that led to his suicide when he learned of Antonapalous' death.

The second part chronicles the other characters' increasing dependence various presentation of themselves everyday to Singer. Each of them creates his or her own individual conception of who Singer is; because Singer himself can not speak, he can not refute or disillusion them. Singer demonstrates one of McCullers's main themes and one of her counter- themes, as he plays one role with Antonapoulos and another with the four other main characters. Singer's devotion to Antonapoulos is McCullers's means of exploring the human struggle to be loved and to express oneself. On the other hand, Singer is an object of such adoration and devotion from the other characters as he attracted all of them individually to share his silence and loneliness and yet finding solace or peace or even fulfillment when characters talk to him that they can not verbalize to others.

Mick, with her rebellious and courageous spirit as she moves from childhood into adolescence, is the other strong focal point of the narrative. There are more chapters devoted to Mick's point of view than to any other character in the novel. Mick, had serious ambitions of becoming a concert pianist when she grew up. Mick's attachment to music is important not only as a defining character trait but also because McCullers' musical sensibility shapes the entire structure of The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter; indeed, she once referred to the book as a three-part fugue. Throughout the novel, music symbolizes Mick's energy and her pursuit of beauty; she stores it in the "inner room" of her mind, to which only she and Singer have access. Mick's plans to build a violin from scratch, for example, arise from her "inner room." Consequently, her frustration when the violin does not work is more violent than if the idea had been conceived in her "outer room" -the part of her that she allows to interact with the outside world. Her interaction with her family, especially to her siblings vary and much more different when she interacts with the other four major characters. She hates her sisters who are lazy. She continuously shows affection for Ralph and Bubber.

Mick is the most positive and hopeful character in the novel. The fact that Mick is a child at the beginning of the novel, it provides the opportunity to portray the funny and poignant moments that accompany Mick's coming of age. At her worst, Mick frightens her little brother Bubber into running away after he accidentally shoots Baby in the head with a BB gun; at her best, she heroically offers to quit school so that she can work at Woolworth's to help her poverty-stricken family. At the end of the novel, Mick's final words indicate to us that her inner world remains intact and that she will continue to fight to achieve her ambitions. Her contact to real world allows her more to grow and mature with Harry as her first kiss and Mr. Singer as her long time "crush".

Biff Brannon is one of the more bizarre if not grotesque characters in the novel. Like Singer, he is distanced, observant, and quiet influenced by his past. However, none of Biff's observations cohere into any greater insight or concept of humanity; instead, they stand as isolated, unconnected fragments that offer us only puzzling and contradictory impulses that are never satisfactorily explained. When we see Biff interact with his wife, Alice, at the beginning of the novel, it is clear that the two do not feel any great love for one another after fifteen years of marriage. We also learn that Biff is impotent, though we are never told if this condition is just a problem he has in his relations with Alice or whether it extends to other women as well. Throughout the novel we perceive that Biff also has a strong desire to have children of his own; he wishes that Mick and his niece, Baby, were his own children.

Biff clearly has unresolved sexual anxieties, but their exact nature is never made clear. He keeps all the parts of his life compartmentalized-the past from the present, his life upstairs in his room from his life downstairs in the restaurant, and his marital relationship from his sexual life. At one point, we learn that Biff chivalrously beat up his sister-in-law's husband when he bragged about beating her; yet after Alice dies, Biff starts to sew and use his wife's perfume, expressing an unexpected feminine side to his personality. No one explains or integrates these conflicting impulses, which leaves us to assume that Biff himself is unable to resolve these inner conflicts.

Dr. Benedict Copeland is perhaps the most noble character in the entire story, as his name suggests of goodness, as a black man who has made many personal sacrifices to devote his entire life's work to furthering the education and uplift of the black community. Dr. Copeland went to the North as a young man to get a college education, and then came back to the South to put his education to good use among the impoverished black community. He speaks very carefully and articulately, never once using the colloquial slang that characterizes the speech of the other black characters, such as his daughter, Portia, and his son Willie. Dr. Copeland feels a constant frustration with what he perceives as the ignorance of black people and their blind acceptance of an inferior societal position-a clear parallel to Jake Blount's frustration with the ignorance of lower-class workers. Dr. Copeland feels that education and strong teachers and leaders are the best means of combating black ignorance and poverty, but he is unable to find anyone of his own race who can help him with his goals. Dr. Copeland constantly feels alienated from both his own family and the broader black community, largely due to his radical views. Dr. Copeland's children have largely accepted the position white society has given them; all of them except Portia are afraid to even come to his house to visit because they know he will chastise them for the choices they have made in their lives.

Dr. Copeland, like Jake Blount, is a Marxist, but he does not have the same confused conception of the theory's implementation that Blount does. At the end of Part Two, when the two men finally discuss their political views, their personal, educational, and racial differences make it almost impossible for them to communicate; as a result, neither recognizes the other as a fellow reformer. Dr. Copeland's brand of Marxism is so highly intellectualized that he communicates his theory no more effectively than Jake does with his drunken rambling. Jake is a wanderer who comes to town with confused and passionate plans for a socialist revolt. He drinks almost constantly for the first few weeks he is in town, spending almost all his time at Biff Brannon's New York Café. Once Jake meets Singer and decides that Singer, like him, "knows," he stays in town and gets a job at a local carnival. Of all the characters, Jake is the most prone to violent outbursts and genuine mental instability-his speech is never constant in tone, changing from intellectual to crass to boisterous to rage at a moment's notice. He is constantly consumed with his desire to see workers rise up in revolt; the only time he ceases to think about how to achieve his misguided socialist reforms is when he drinks himself into a stupor.

Jake is also the least sensitive of all of the characters, and he is no expert at personal interaction. All of the other main characters have other friends, acquaintances, or family outside of their relationship with Singer, but Jake confides in nobody else except the deaf-mute. After Singer dies, Jake is blindingly angry that he has spent so much time telling his dreams and plans to a man who is now dead. At the end of the novel, Jake leaves town to search for another person who will share his views and collaborate with him in his plans for violent revolt and revolution.

Man's constant struggle and his success or defeat against moral and spiritual isolation is very vivid in the novel. Each of the five main characters strives to break out of his or her isolated existence. The reasons each character is isolated are very different: the deaf-mute John Singer can not communicate with most of the world because he can not speak; Mick Kelly can not communicate with anyone in her family because they do not share her intelligence and ambition; Biff Brannon is left alone when his wife dies; Dr. Copeland is alienated from his family and from other black people because of his education and viewpoints; Jake Blount is alone is his radical social viewpoints and in the fact that he is a newcomer in town.

The isolation from which each character suffers is a combination of personal and environmental factors. According to Emile Durkheim, society is composed of "organs" called social facts which are: A.) Material social facts such as 1.) society 2.) structural components of society like the church and state 3.) morphological components of society like population and housing and B.) Non Material social Facts like 1.) morality 2.) collective conscience 3.) collective representation and 4.) social currents which affects people the way they are. However, all of the characters feel profoundly alone in some sense or another, and all of them desperately need to communicate their feelings with somebody who understands them. All five, with the exception of Biff, confide in Singer the things that make them spiritually lonesome caused by the absence of religion or God. In contrast Portia, Willie and Highboy and other colored minor characters, Presbyterian members, find peace amidst black community persecution. Though it is never made clear, the only reason Biff does not discuss his personal conflicts with Singer is most likely because Biff himself is unable to articulate these personal conflicts. Regardless, Biff still finds Singer's presence comforting. After talking to Singer, the characters almost always feel soothed.

The novelist explores the idea that all people feel a need to create some sort of guiding principle or god. However, whatever each person conceives of in this godlike role is merely his or her own fantasy; it has no basis in reality, just as those who believe in God have no proof that He actually exists. Singer becomes a pseudo-religious figure for the main characters of the novel; they believe he has infinite and unending wisdom about many things, and they turn to him in times of trouble, constantly asking him to help them achieve their goals and assuage their fears and doubts.

Each character creates a different god in Singer. For Mick, Singer is a man who feels as she does about music and whom she can ask very personal questions-things she has never said to anyone before. For Dr. Copeland, Singer is an the only enlightened white man he has ever met, the only one who understands the Doctor's burning passion to achieve justice for black people in the world. For Blount, Singer is a man who shares his deep concern about the importance of socialist revolution and the eradication of capitalism. For Biff, Singer is, like Biff himself, a quiet and astute observer of the human condition who ponders many things in great depth.

In reality, however, Singer is none of these things; he is merely an ordinary, intelligent man who only wants to be with his friend Antonapoulos. Singer can not understand why all these other people come to him for advice on topics with which he has no expertise or even familiarity. It is ironic that Singer-a character the others blindly make out to be a sort of god-is just as prone to the same blind faith, which we see in his love for Antonapoulos. Singer believes that Antonapoulos is a wise, kindhearted person, and he worships his friend unremittingly. Meanwhile, it is clear to us that all the evidence suggests Antonapoulos is actually coarse, selfish, and lazy. In the end, we see that all the major characters are deluding themselves by believing only what they wish about John Singer. Nonetheless, the very fact that they believe it gives them peace.

Heroism surfaces most overtly in the novel in the characters of John Singer and of Mick, the least self-absorbed of the major characters and seemingly the only ones capable of feeling genuine, unselfish love for another person. The love Singer feels for Antonapoulos demonstrates the altruism of Singer's nature: he is capable of loving someone completely without receiving any true reciprocation whatsoever. Mick also shows herself to be capable of loving someone for reasons that are not at all self-interested: she feels a deeply affectionate love for her younger brother Bubber, and she continues to feel this way even when he distances himself from her.

By the end of the novel, Mick emerges as the most heroic character when she gives up school to take on a job to help support her family. She is determined not to give up on her dreams; indeed, she is the only character who does not let Singer's death negatively affect the course her life takes. After Singer dies, Dr. Copeland's health fails and he is taken to his father-in-law's farm; Blount leaves town; Biff remains in the same monotonous existence. Mick is the only one of the major characters who maintains positive plans for the future: she is firmly resolved to continue saving for a piano, despite the fact that it will take many hours at Woolworth's before she can afford one. For Mick, there is a light at the end of the tunnel that no other character-not even Singer-sees.

Both Singer and Blount experience dreams that either are indicative of important aspects of their personalities or support some greater theme in the novel as a whole. Singer dreams that he sees Antonapoulos at the top of a flight of stairs, kneeling and holding something up in his hand. Singer is kneeling behind Antonapoulos, while Mick, Biff, Jake, and Dr. Copeland are all kneeling behind Singer. This worshipful image perfectly depicts the way that the characters feel in the story: Singer worships Antonapoulos, whereas the other four characters worship Singer. The dream represents the dynamic of the relationships in the novel as a whole.

Jake has a nightmare at the end of the book that he has had several times before. He dreams that he is in a crowd and that he is carrying a covered basket. He feels anxious because he does not know to whom to give the basket. This dream demonstrates Blount's desire to find kindred spirits who also believe in socialism, so that he can give his "basket" of beliefs to them. In the dream, Blount has been carrying the burdensome basket for a long time; in life, his socialist beliefs have burdened him for a long time as well, as there are few people with whom he can share them to relieve his thoughts.

Singer is a symbol of hope throughout the entire narrative: he embodies Mick's hopes that someday she will travel and become a famous musician, he embodies Biff's hope that he will someday find enlightenment, he embodies Dr. Copeland's hope that someday the black race will have justice, and he embodies Jake's hope that soon workers in America will understand that they are oppressed and will fight for their rights. Each character projects these qualities onto Singer, who comes to stand for all that the characters believe in their own minds. This blank-slate quality to Singer is the reason the others believe in him as they would a god: he can not directly respond to their pleas, but the mere fact that they believe in him enough to confide in him in the first place affords them at least a small measure of peace.

In conclusion, the major characters as well as the minor characters are greatly influenced by their past, their families, and people they met. Both primary socialization and secondary socialization spell out the future of their lives. Their isolation, resentment, bitterness, rebelliousness or meekness are caused according to Durkheim by many factors such as the material and non material social facts such as society, environment, church, state, morality, collective conscience, collective representation and social currents.

Source by Wilfredo M. Valois

Tips On How To Crack The Pick 6 Lotto Code

The majority of individuals who get into pick 6 games use random numbers, but if you're looking to crack the lottery code it's going to take more than doing what many others are already doing. Thus, it would make sense to stay away from simply choosing "favorite" numbers, birth dates, dates of anniversaries, and so on. These numbers have already been used and lost thousands of times by thousands of unsuccessful players. Cracking the code is all about using scientific and mathematical processes.

Remember, picking numbers using very common (but unfortunately ineffective) methods like using birth dates and sequenced numbers will not crack the lottery code. The reason for this is that the administrators of such games are banking on the common and ineffective methods already used by millions of people. They do not want people to win each and every time, because if that were the case, they would lose massive amounts of money.

Simply stay away from the misconceptions. It's incredible just what number combinations will make you lose. Think of it this way – many other people, like you, are trying to hit the jackpot. What do you feel they are thinking? Of course, they are trying to think of using things like repetition and sequences to win. They think that by repeating numbers constantly, they improve their odds of winning. They think by using numbers in a sequence like 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6, no one else have used such numbers and thus they are likely to win.

The truth is, repeating numbers is not the key to cracking the code, but using a mixture of number types is. Winners have used a mix of both hot and cold numbers, odd and even numbers, and so on. Furthermore, sequenced numbers have already been used by so many people than imagined.

Now that you know what not to do, let's talk about some ways to find that winning lottery code. One way is to look back. If you think about it, lotteries have existed for decades. We now have the upper hand in reviewing long histories of drawn winning numbers. You can now utilize all this data appropriately to our advantage over those individuals who just play based on random numbers.

Putting together the power of proven science with your analysis of historical winning numbers will result the ability to produce tiny pools of numerical segments that have better odds of being picked sooner or later. Realizing these tinier pools of numbers is the basis of raising the probability of winning on a more consistent basis. You may not necessarily win big, but it's the probability of winning more often that is greatly improved.

Not yet ready to use mathematical solutions? You do not have to be an expert in math. To crack the lottery code, you first have to invest in a good system specifically made to increase your chances of obtaining the winning combination. But for it to work properly in the first place, the system must be user-friendly and allow you to produce a personalized profile in a short amount of time. You might also find it helpful for a system to be able to function for all lottery number systems.

Source by Art Robinson