Business Planning – Short Term, Medium Term and Long Term Goals

As the owner or executive of a business, you have business goals. You have your 5-year goals or your long-term goals, and then there are steps along the way to reach those goals: medium-term goals and short-term goals.

If you were a retailer you might have the following goals:

Short term: sell a certain amount each sunny day, a certain amount each rainy day, a certain amount each holiday, weekend and weekday.

Medium term: Identify your best suppliers. Establish relationships with the most efficient, timely, reliable and innovative suppliers. Attract a higher number of baby boomers than your competition.

Long term: Continue to create innovations in the marketplace that can set you apart from your competition, such as innovative loyalty programs or bleeding edge point-of-purchase technology.

In business planning and business performance management, key performance indicators (KPIs) are fundamental to knowing where you are in your path towards a certain goal.

This is what Wikipedia says about KPIs:

A performance indicator or key performance indicator ( KPI) is a measure of performance. Such measures are commonly used to help an organization define and evaluate how successful it is, typically in terms of making progress towards its long-term organizational goals. KPIs can be specified by answering the question, "What is really important to different stakeholders?"

Wikipedia mentions long-term, but that misses out on important short-term and medium-term goals which I'll explain shortly. The other key term here is "stakeholders."

Each goal, whether short-term or long-term, has different stakeholders.

If you have daily retail sales goals, then a store manager has to have access to data that shows him or her in real time what's going on in the store.

If you have quarterly or yearly goals vis-avís your suppliers and different customer segments, then an operations person or sales director needs access to information that shows how you're doing along these paths.

If you have long-term plans to create innovative solutions and become a market leader, then the CEO or owner needs access to key data to know how you're doing against these plans.

Different time-frames, different stakeholders, different goals, different KPIs.

What tools are available to help you along the path?

David Abdo wrote a post entitled "Business Intelligence Software: Who Is It Really For?" where he argued for the democratization of business intelligence software across the enterprise.

The existence of a multi-tiered goal structure as illustrated above implies the requirement of a company to implement a business intelligence tool that's accessible to all people within the company.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

Source by Fernando Labastida

Older – Younger Lesbian Relationships

Older / younger or Age gap relationships have always appealed to many. The appeal is almost timeless, from Mrs Robinson to Loving Annabelle. In fact, it is regardless of orientation, gender, race or any other factors you can think of.

But of course, over here the spotlight will be shining on older / younger lesbian relationships.

Something Sexy: The Older / Younger Combination

There is just something incredibly romantic and sexy about being in a older / younger lesbian relationship, especially if both of you are at different stages of your lives.

Eg She is the successful career woman sought after by the industry, while you're the young and upcoming newbie under her mentorship; you're the charismatic female lecturer, while she is your intelligent, earnest student … you get the idea.

Its as if you come from 2 different worlds, and struck by a specially formulated arrow drawn from Cupid's bow, two magically becomes one.

I have always been fascinated with women older than me.

When I was a teenager I tried dating women in their mid-twenties to early thirties. Now that I'm in my twenties, the range got extended to dating women from the mid-twenties to early forties.

I used to think that the chances of finding a good bed partner was higher in an attractive older woman than the hot girl sitting next to you in lecture hall.

I was mostly right about my pre-conceived beliefs for my own experiences.

If this were to be plotted on a graph, it would depict an upward trend to a certain extent:

The older the woman I slept with, the more fun we had in bed.

But of course, that's not the only thing that makes them attractive. (Although its an undeniably big draw)

Given their archive of social experience, older women generally exude more confidence and carry themselves pretty well.

Dating them, to me, is a whole lot of fun and the emotional connection is often refreshing.

I like the conversations we have; the places we go; the food we eat; our different perspectives on the same things.

Older / Younger Lesbian Seductions

I especially like the way they drop subtle seductive hints when they find themselves liking you, before they say out loud that they like you.

I find their hints juicier than their verbal declarations.

Like for example, there was this one time, I met up with this lady whom I got to know from a party.

She was 39 and I was 22.

We met up for some coffee in the afternoon at a place that had cozy couches.

It was all polite at first, but as minutes passed, we found ourselves opening up and inching towards each other.

She was attractive and well maintained for her age, and looked like she was only in her late twenties, so I could not help looking at her face a little longer than I normally would.

It was electrifying how she reciprocated the 'looks' and periodically broke into seductive laughter.

I was hooked.

Sugar & Spice: All Things Nice

If you're a girl wanting to date an older woman, you probably wonder what will you have to offer to the relationship?

If an older woman is sugar, then a younger woman is all spice.

Younger women, with their hunger for new experiences, youthful energy and spontaneity, are infectious.

Also, the sweet adoration one gets from her younger counterpart is priceless.

An additional 'perk' you get when you have a younger girlfriend is that she keeps you more current than your peers and 'extends' your prime.

Plus you get a combination of sugar and spice in bed

Age gap: Is it a relationship issue ?

Some of you might have heard some lesbian horror stories of manipulation: younger girlfriends being presented as 'trophies', older girlfriends being exploited as 'sugar mummies'; but there will always be ladies like that around.

You can be of the same age as your girlfriend; be manipulated in the relationship, presented as a trophy and treated like a sugar mummy. At the end of the day you have to be selective about who you date.

Can a older / younger lesbian relationship go the distance? I think it can.

Although there can be many differences in this relationship (just like any other similar age relationship), once you can connect and find what makes both of you tick, the differences you have becomes like the faded background.

Afterall, we've seen so many of our straight counterparts in age gap relationships living their happily-ever-after stories. So, why not us?

Source by Kate Tan

Your Sexual Health – Do You Know How Sexual Abstinence Harms Your Health and Happiness?

Doctors tell us that sexual abstinence can harm the physical and psychic health of men and women. Find out how you can reverse the harmful side effects of abstinence with or without a sexual partner.

How can sexual abstinence harm your health?

You may be grieving the loss of your romantic partner or a loss of sexual intimacy in a relationship, and the process of grieving takes a huge toll on your health. When your thoughts turn to loss and dis-ease, you lose the health benefits of feeling love and gratitude – our two healing emotions.

You may feel content on your own without a sexual partner, yet the lack of sexual activity takes its health toll.

Men and women who abstain from sex for long periods can develop problems with sexual function.

Men may experience issues concerning erection and ejaculation. Testosterone levels may fall and reduce desire.

Women may suffer a loss of arousal, vaginal lubrication and an inability to climax. Estrogen levels may fall and bad cholesterol may rise.

Fortunately, these conditions may reverse and return to normal after you resume sexual activity.

Men and women who abstain from sex miss out on these health benefits of sexual activity:

– Ease in handling stress

– Speedy cell repair and regeneration

– Increased intimacy hormones that elevate mood

– Greater blood flow to brain that improves memory

– Stronger immune system and less fatigue or illness

– Younger skin and less body fat from human growth hormone produced during sex

– Extended longevity

If you do not have a sexual partner, is there another way to gain these health benefits?

Researchers report that our sexual health must be maintained by a regular and active sex life.

If you do not have a sexual partner, there are several ways to avoid or reverse the side effects of sexual abstinence:

* Substitute sex with masturbation

– Men often masturbate, even when their sex life is in order.

– Many women do not masturbate, even when deprived of sex.

– Some religions view it as sinful, unacceptable behavior.

– Sexual researchers report that masturbation is one way to maintain sexual and psychic health. Here is another:

* Use sex toys

– They are used by adults who can not make love with a beloved partner, yet they do not want to sleep around.

– There are vibrators, realistic dolls, dildos that are safe tools for sexual release.

– Unlike casual sex with a partner, the sex toys can not expose you to STDs.

– They stimulate the health benefits of an active sex life.

* Develop sexual intimacy in a relationship

– Improve your existing relationship so that you revive the spark of sexual fire for an active, healthy sex life.

– Find a compatible match for a loving, passionate relationship through matchmaking services or online dating sites.

– Health studies confirm that you will age better and sustain healthy vitality when you enjoy an active sex life.

Source by Hadley Finch

Getting Creative With Your Cardio at Home or at the Gym

Cardio exercises are a must when it comes to being fit or shedding fat, but that does not mean you do not have options. Cardio does a lot for your health in general, it increases your metabolism, burns fat, makes your heart and blood vessels healthier, decreases your blood pressure, increases your stamina, improves your sex life and the list goes on.

With all that I have stated doing the same thing day in day out might bore you so much that you could forget the benefits of cardio, so I'm going to give you other alternative ways to do your cardio that are not the traditional, steady pace jogging or cycling that everyone associates with cardio.

What most people think is that the longer you do an activity such as jogging the more you will get out of the workout, which is not true but may be true if you are talking about steady pace cardio. Doing something like jogging for a long distance is also time consuming and if you do too much cardio or too long of a distance you might find that it holds you back in terms of muscle gain, if that is what you are after.

How to get creative with your cardio:

First thing you can try is to change your traditional cardio workouts into more fast paced, interval sessions. What I mean is you can train in short intense intervals by timing yourself on a bike or treadmill and increasing the intensity in each interval. This would not require a lot of time and you would have one hell of a workout. In fact you will be burning calories long after you have worked out, but your time spent working out would be less than if you did the traditional steady pace stuff.

You could try doing sprints which is another form of interval training, running between cones. Taking short breaks and doing it again and increasing the distance and trying to run as fast as possible, short break again increasing the distance a little and go at it hard again, you get the idea. This would be a short intense and fun workout, obviously its short because it takes more effort and we can not sprint for long distances or long periods of time. The cool thing with sprints is that you get the benefits of traditional cardio and you built lean muscular legs, you have noticed that sprinters are jacked compared to long distance runners.

Other cardio exercises you could try includes martial art such as MMA, Kick boxing, karate etc. You could also play sports if you have time such as soccer, tennis, hockey or any other high activity sport. You could try swimming if you love the water; swimming is one of the better forms of cardio since it has less impact on your body and joints because the water supports your body weight.

There are a lot of alternatives to traditional cardio, it's up to you to find the ones that you like best, most of them are just fun and most people do not even know they are doing a cardio exercise. Just think of dancers they do cardio and have fun the same time. So go out there and find what works for you, no more excuses and no more boring cardio sessions.

Source by Eugene Madondo

Relationship Indifference and the Breakup of a Relationship

Relationship indifference is the true sign that a relationship is over. Relationships can go through stormy times: disagreements, friends, financial stresses, family illnesses can all test the fiber of a relationship. When a relationship has survived through tough times, what is keeping it together?

In those situations, love continues even though it may be struggling to be heard. The couple is still interested in each other; there is some part of their lives that keep them focused on a shared life together.

Friends and family may wonder why the couple is still making it against all odds. Outsiders may look on in admiration or with a tinge of envy that these people are successfully keeping it together.

Indifference vs Love / Conflicts in Relationships

A common expression is "love can turn to hate; hate can turn to love". What does that actually mean?

It certainly does not mean there are not people hating you. It also does not mean you could convince such people to love you. Nor does it mean you should waste your time trying.

What it does mean is that conflict can be mixed into the expression of love. Love can be expressed as passion, affection, commitment, appreciation consideration etc.

However, love's expression becomes confused when frustration, disappointment, fear, or insecurity take over in a relationship. These inherent feelings of conflict can cause a breakup and persist after the breakup. It may take many months for those feelings to diminish in power.

Conflict Can Bind the Two of You Together
(But Life is Too Short)

While these conflicted feelings of love persist, the person can not be indifferent. Though your ex may have decided to leave you, it does not mean those feelings have left him.

He may loudly and forcefully declare he's over you. He may even badmouth you to anyone who is interested. As long as the inner conflict remains, he's not over you. The conflict himself can keep pushing him back. When this happens there is a chance.

When indifference happens, the conflict in the relationship no longer has the power to push him back. Though your ex may be polite and even kind, he just will not be interested in going back into the relationship. You will not be able to convince him in any way to go back to you. He will have truly decided that it's over.

We all want the very best for our life. Romantic relationships are among the most important. No matter how well romantic relationships begin they can go wrong in so many ways.

He may have dumped you. You may have dumped him. No matter what happened in your own personal history, you may still feel it's not over. And you know, it would be best for both of you to get back together again.

After all the harsh words said, and all the hurtful actions, how do you manage this? How do I communicate with him? When do I do it? What about reconnecting sexually? Dating another guy when I still want to get back with my ex? Not talking to him at all?

All these require clarity. You have to be clear about the best ways to get your relationship back together again. Make a mistake at any stage and you destroy completely your chances to get your ex back.

Source by Leonora M. Easton

Trust Issues in Relationships – How to Overcome Them

Majority of break-ups are due to unresolved trust issues in relationships. Trust plus love and respect equals a successful marriage.

Every person yearns to have a happy and successful married life. However, statistics shows that almost 50% of marriages in the US are dissolved because of various reasons. Trust issues in relationships are one of the problems.

Every individual has a certain degree of having difficulty in trusting somebody. You can not blame yourself or anybody else for saying, "I do not easily trust someone." That's normal but if a person says, "I do not trust anybody!" That is a big problem.

If you are in a romantic relationship and you notice that your girlfriend or boyfriend has a hard time trusting the people around him or her; that is a clear indication that he or she has trust issues in relationships.

Trust is very important in any relationship. It holds the partners together to form a commitment. If your girlfriend or boyfriend does not know how to trust, your relationship will always be at stake because doubt is in the way.

A person who relationship trust issues is trapped and he or she worries all the time; constantly checking on you, asking the details of your activities and whereabouts. At first it's okay because you think he or she is concern and sweet. But in the long run it will be annoying and you feel mistrusted.

To avoid the possible damage in your relationship, you need to find out the reason behind your girlfriend or boyfriend's mistrusting attitude. Perhaps the mistrust rooted in his childhood or former relationships wherein he was betrayed.

Here are the following steps you can do to help your girlfriend or boyfriend overcome his or her insecurities and trust issues.

  1. Talk heart to heart with your girlfriend or boyfriend, explain how you feel and emphasize the importance of trust in your relationship.
  2. Tell your girlfriend or boyfriend that you want to build a strong relationship and it can only be done if you have faith with each other.
  3. You must admit that his or her trust issues in relationships bother you and it may cause a big problem. Before it happens you want to prevent it.
  4. Convince your girlfriend or boyfriend to share his personal fears with you and pinpoint the cause of mistrust. Jot down every issue.
  5. Identify every issue that really bothers you and discuss why and how it is affecting your relationship.
    • For instance: He or she wants to know your activities and whereabouts.
    • Problem: Monitoring is too much, you feel like a child and mistrusted without probable reason.
    • Solution: Will inform him or her about your daily activities and will try your best to call twice a day whenever possible.
  6. Make sure that both of you agree to every solution and comfortable with it.
  7. Express your commitment with each other to build a more intimate and stronger relationship by completely trusting each other.

Trust issues in relationships normally arise when one or both partners went through a bad relationship in the past, thereby carrying the baggage with them in their new relationship. The past affects the person's ability to completely trust anyone including the person whom he or she is intimately involved with.

Lack of trust destroys any relationship, no matter how you love the person. Most of the time people who have trust issues in relationships are super jealous, insecure, and controlling. Post why? Because of fear that the person he or she loves will cheat on him or her.

If you can not trust the person you love, you can not have a good relationship. You will never be happy because your worries and fears are haunting you. The best thing for you to do is to forget the memories of a bad relationship and start fresh.

People are not the same and every person has a different intention in a relationship. If your intention is good and if you want to love and be loved there's nothing to worry.

All you have to do is to be honest with your girlfriend or boyfriend. If you have trust issues in relationships do not be afraid to discuss it as early as possible in your dating period. This will give you peace of mind and you will feel more secure in your relationship.

Seek professional counseling if you think your past relationship totally damaged your ability to trust including the people who are close to heart.

Source by Jonnie Blaylock

The Pros and Cons of the 4 Triathlon Distances

Although there are creative variations on the traditional triathlon distances (such as some races that make the swim longer to appease the fish among us, or the races that make the bike longer to make us feel like we're getting deserved mileage from our multi- thousand dollar time trial bike, or the races that make the run longer to simply be masochistic and cruel), there are generally 4 triathlon distances: Sprint, Olympic, Half-Ironman and Ironman. So to help you with your triathlon race season preparation, here's a quick peek at the pros and cons of each triathlon distance.

Sprint:

Pros – Imagine an overweight, sedentary individual sitting on the couch and licking Cheetos residue off their fingers. Technically, it would be possible for that person to be standing on the starting line of a Sprint triathlon just 12-16 weeks later. This is because since sprint triathlon distances are short, they have a low barrier to entry and do not require extensive physical preparation. You only need to be able to swim 400-600 meters (8-12 laps in a pool), ride a bicycle 10-15 miles, and run or walk 2-4 miles, and this requires continuously exercising for about 50 minutes to 2 hours. This may be tough for some, but it is do-able for most. Furthermore, if you're fit or experienced in triathlon, and you want to go faster in a Sprint triathlon, it will take less training time than the longer distances, so it's pretty rare for Sprint triathlon distance to be a family-wrecker.

Cons – Sprint triathlons do not carry much notoriety. You may become offended when someone asks you how your "Mini-Triathlon" went. And if you do decide to go fast or shoot for a podium spot, a sprint triathlon is going to hurt, a lot. You'll need to be at a red hot high-intensity effort near maximum heart rate for about 2-3 times as long as a 5K run. That's a zone that's tough for most to get into, but the price you have to pay if you want to win or place in a Sprint triathlon distance. Another possible con for many is that you simply don¹t have much time to eat food during a Sprint triathlon, so those who compete in order to have access to a moving buffet of gels and cookies will be disappointed.

Olympic:

Pros – As the name implies, the Olympic distance is pretty much the same triathlon distance covered in the Olympics (1.5K swim, 40K bike, 10K run), so when someone asks you if you did a "Mini-Triathlon", you can respond by saying, "No, I did exactly what they do in the Olympics". This will probably make you feel good inside, and at the same time, you still do not have to train quite as much as the Half-Ironman and Ironman triathletes, so your spouse, kids, family and friends will not find you a complete stranger. If you're a triathlon junkie, you can do a ton of Olympic distances races in a year, and not have a high risk of overtraining or injury, since they're relatively short and you'll recover quickly. Plus, you actually get to eat a little bit. Bon appetit.

Cons – At the same time, the intensity of your Olympic triathlon distance training will be far greater than the Half-Ironman and Ironman triathlon. So, similar to Sprint triathlon, you need to be willing to go into the pain cave far more often. If you're not fit, it's still possible to get roped into an Olympic distance triathlon by your peers, who will probably say something like, "C'mon, it's just 25% of an Ironman." When you reach the 5K point of the run, however, you will be planning revenge on these peers. And if you do want to get on the podium for an Olympic distance race, be ready to execute flawlessly, since the tiniest mistakes can cost you precious seconds that add up very quickly for this triathlon distance.

Half-Ironman:

Pros – Congratulations, you know have bragging rights for having completed a triathlon distance that contains the word "Ironman", without actually having to give up your entire day. As a matter of fact, in many Half-Ironman events, you can be done by lunch, feel very good about yourself, and still have the rest of the day to make excuses not to mow the lawn ( "C'mon, I just did an Ironman event! ") or to go drink lots of cold beer. If you do not like the red-hot intensity of Sprint and Olympic distance training and racing, but do not have the time to devote to Ironman, then this triathlon distance is a nice compromise. Plus, you can travel long distances to race a Half-Ironman without the same type of race day stress as you experience in Ironman. Finally, if you make a mistake during a Half-Ironman race, such as remembering to poo halfway through the half-marathon, you'll still have lots of time to make up for those lost seconds.

Cons – With all the training and effort you you'll put in for a Half-Ironman triathlon distance, you'll sometimes find yourself asking the question, "Why did not I just sign up for an Ironman?". After all, you're typically just as sore the next day after a Half-Ironman as an Ironman, and you still have to do lots of logistical race planning when it comes to hydration, electrolytes or food. Also, the "Half" part of "Half Ironman" does not lend itself quite as well to bragging rights ( "You only did half of it? How come? Did you quit halfway through?"), But you'll sound desperate and boring trying to explain what a 70.3 is ( "Well, a full Ironman is a 2.4 mile swim, 112 mile bike, 26.2 mile run, which is 140.6 miles, but what I've done … dude, wake up." )

Ironman:

Pros – It's Ironman, for crying out loud. This event has been elevated to tattoo-worthiness status. Did you hear me? You get to swim 2.4 miles, ride 112 miles, run a marathon, and then get a tattoo and your parents will still be proud of you. Heck, your boss probably will too. Unless you're a musician, Harley fanatic or artist, in what other social situation are tattoos acceptable? Even if you skip out on the tattoo, you'll have bragging rights for life, you'll feel very good about yourself, and you will get to eat over 4000 calories a day and stay skinny.

Cons – Ironman is a logistical nightmare. Not only do you need to squeeze 12-25 training hours into any given week, but you also need to figure out how to eat and drink while moving long distances without your gut distending like a swollen balloon or your fragile bodily sphincters crying out in distress . You will become best friends with your local sports medicine doctor and physical therapist, and this is not a good thing. During the actual race, you will go through periods that have been compared to childbirth, a death-march, and a "very dark place". When you finish, you may experience symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder. You may forget what your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife looks like, and you romantic times with them may involve nothing more than you lying like a sack of potatoes on the couch while they lovingly stroke their hands through your sweat-caked hair. You may have to appease them by allowing them to help you design your tattoo.

While the information above will give you a good baseline for making your triathlon distance decision, I can not vouch for your safety or sanity if you choose to think outside box of the triathlon distances described in this article, and decide to go do a race like the American Triple T, which packs a Sprint, 2 Olympics, and a Half-Ironman triathlon all into one weekend, or a back-to-back Ironman triathlon like Ultraman. Be sure to drop me a line if you do go tackle a new triathlon distance I'd love to hear your story. To be sure And lands check out the Rock Star Triathlete Academy, at Http://www.rockstartriathlete.com , where you can the join me for a weekly webinar to talk about your triathlon training, nutrition, and more.

Source by Ben Greenfield

The Disadvantages of Jealousy in Relationships

Getting the perfect partner in a perfect relationship is not impossible to happen. But by means of the word, "perfect", does not mean it's the complete pieces of the puzzle like how everybody wants it to be. Instead, it could be full of flaws. Yet, for you it is perfect. It is more on how you want it to be. It is more on having a relationship which suits your personality and lifestyle. In short, it is more of having a partner that you can call your soul mate.

Nevertheless, problems are always part of a relationship. So before achieving that perfect state that you wanted, experiencing sacrifices, trials and hardships is the best teacher for you to say you have learned in becoming better. Some of these trials come and go. Some stay for a long time and test your relationship while some disappears like a bubble.

One of the issues your relationship may face is this big word, jealousy. No matter how understanding and careful you are in your relationship, jealousy is a normal feeling you are going to face. There's nothing to bother at all. Nonetheless, it should not be taken for granted either. It is healthy for you to feel that jealousy but there could be disadvantages when disregarded over time.

Here are some details about it:

There is paranoia. If you are the jealous partner and you decided not to resolve it within the soonest possible time, this could lead you to some serious matters. This could not only affect you emotionally but also physically and mentally. If you are hiding that jealous feeling all by yourself, you would tend to think about it over and over again until such point you can not get over it. This could greatly affect your body. Since a paranoid person lacks sleep and does not like to eat, weakness and drowsiness is exhibited during the day. A paranoid person is less likely to do activities that would excite him / her. He / She only thinks of what the partner maybe doing or thinking. This could lead to severe anxiety and depression.

A routine is messed up. On the other hand, if you have a jealous partner, it is very difficult for you to sustain a free relationship. Handling a jealous partner is like handling high-end glass chandeliers with care. A jealous partner is very delicate and sensitive with feelings. Make it to a point that you do not upset your partner by giving doubts and ideas to make him / her feel jealous. It is expected that because of this behavior, your daily routine before would not be a routine anymore. Changing schedules to meet the needs of your jealous partner would be necessary as a start to fix this kind of problem in your relationship.

You've got to prove yourself every single day. Having a jealous partner means having to prove to him / her that you are faithful and loyal. This could mean proving it forever. This point may suck for you but it is reality. This is more difficult if you really committed a fault within your relationship. Trust is an important component and once that trust is gone because of what you did wrong, it is very difficult to get it all back. So if this means proving yourself that you are sorry every day just to get your relationship better again, just go for it. If you have not done anything wrong in the past but still is mandated to prove your loyalty, bringing this up to your partner through a serious talk may be the best solution as for the moment.

Source by Pamela Descallar

Empowering Children With Low Self Esteem

Self esteem is a key ingredient in maximizing children's potential in academic achievement, social success, and personal happiness. This statement alone, was the inspiration behind the motivation for Children's Story Book 'The Magic Sunglasses' written by Auriel Blanche. (Also known as Angela Buck)

We all want to protect our children, keep them from harms way and safeguard them from danger. Fundamentally it is the child's own inner beliefs and self esteem that is the only thing that can act like armor and create a shield to protect them from the challenges the world has to throw at them. For a child to reach their full potential: self esteem is the primary and most crucial tool. This is the devise that Angela Buck has focused on throughout her child literacy program. She prides herself on actively infusing inspiration to children across the world. By sparking imaginations through her literature, Angela gives the children the freedom to learn and the ability to overcome the negatives life may throw at them. Angela encourages the use of attributes a child has within to enable them to live with independence and self worth.

Angela Buck successfully taps into many children's spirits on a global scale, making them visualize desirable outcomes and make positive connections with their inner purpose. She does this through her skill of creative and innovative writing which engages children of all ages. Along with her interactive workshops and programs, The Magic Sunglasses, her acclaimed children's fun fantasy book is a must read for all children in today's society. Especially for those who are saddened with a low self esteem. Samantha is a character a child with a lack of confidence can relate to. She too has not fully discovered that she has a special value all her own. Throughout the story she finds a power that the reader will be inspired to find in themselves. The books motivation is to show we all have that special value, which we can use to help us live the lives we really want and to be happy. The magic sunglasses in their physical form mysteriously find their way to Samantha. They have wonderful powers which support her and show her what you can do if you really try! The important notion behind the story is that these possibilities are still achievable when she no longer has them. The results this book entails is seen in the readers improvement of personal motivation, their positivity for their own capabilities, their respect for their own special values ​​and the optimisms for their own self worth.

Children with low self-esteem may not want to try new things, and may frequently speak negatively about themselves; they may be over critical, lack confidence and miss out on the fun and learning that other children benefit from. It is known that the use of a child's imagination helps children to develop their unique personality, beliefs, and strengths. Children work through their problems and explore their feelings while reading this book. Through their new limitless view they are now able to set meaningful and purposeful goals or intentions. Samantha has not any limitations to her dreams; she tries new things and can reach goals without an aid. This can then be relayed in the life of the reader.

Patterns of self-esteem start very early in life. This is why Angela Bucks book is aimed at 7-12 year olds, this age is crucial for developments; emotionally, physically and intellectually. Learning new skills and gaining belief in their potentials are great ways to improve self esteem in children. This is exactly what the themes throughout The Magic Sunglasses inspires to do. They teach the reader to praise themselves and use their imaginations to motivate all welcomed possibilities.

Angela Buck understands that Children with low self esteem need a positive role model. For this reason she created the amazing Samantha. She is always polite and friendly. She is playful and imaginative. She enjoys making her dreams come true and strives to reach her potential. She is a happy child, enthusiastic and charismatic. She is respectful of others and through self discovery learns how to cope with the challenges she faces with optimism and self worth. All of which are attributes that a role model should inspire.

To overcome self esteem issues and lack of confidence we need to Identify and redirect the child's inaccurate beliefs. Self-esteem is all about the way you judge yourself. Angela strives to promote the ethos of creating a worldwide community of children who have learnt how to value themselves and to use their potential, to live personally successful lives and contribute to the success of others. These aspects are explored through the characters in the book as well as through her interactive workshops, and her new ventures and material. Inaccurate beliefs are created by other inflicting methods surrounding children, ie other adults, other children, television, magazines or many other reflective methods. The Magic Sunglasses compromises these inaccurate beliefs and offers a more positive and preferable aspect to life. Samantha the main character does not embellish in perfection, attractiveness or being the best at everything but instead appreciates her own abilities, enjoys her own imagination and strives to promote her own specialties. Along with promoting children's individual self-discovery and self-esteem Angela has the aim of teaching the importance of discovering others self worth's and becoming respectfully aware of others. To not only understand their own specialties but to seek and understanding the positives and strengths in everyone. Angela hopes a generation of individuals who grow up with a natural respect for others regardless of race, religion or cultural will one day exist. The practice of imagining themselves in Samantha's situation is very important for developing compassion, empathy and understanding others fully, by discouraging flawed beliefs and offering inspiration for positive healthy ways of thinking, the child's self-esteem and confidence will inevitably improve. This will benefit the academic, social and personal development needed at this age.

It is known that a child needs affection and love. Without this it is inevitable that a low self esteem will occur. For this reason The Magic Sunglasses would be a great read to improve the esteem. It is a warming and touching storyline that will be extremely heartfelt by the reader, making them feel happy inside. The transparent messages throughout the book are to teach the children to love themselves. This book will surely strengthen the child's heart. Positive feedback is always craved by children and important in their learning, for this reason the book encourages own thought and personal creativity. It also encourages using imaginations for possibilities and the motivation for achieving those opportunities. The Magic Sunglasses provides imaginary situations which allow them to practice creative solutions and transcend challenges. Both of which are tools that will set them for life.

A happy living environment is essential in areas of personal confidence and personal valuation. If a child has been constantly criticized, bullied or ignored during early childhood they will have much less child self-esteem than children who are praised, encouraged, listened to and valued. Often it is the case that a child has not had or can not respond to the praise or encouragement from a parent or teacher alone. This means that it is important that every child has the confidence within themselves to appreciate their own self worth and specialties. All of which are creatively demonstrated with fantastic illustrations in Angela Bucks book. Another aspect to think of is that if a child is experiencing a troubled time they may need an embracive distraction. By reading The Magic Sunglasses an escapism is created for them. An inspirational and imaginative place of positivity and hedonism. A place of fun, friendship and endless possibility. Worry, fear, panic and anxiety are all counteracted with positive images by reading the magic sunglasses, all fantastically created by the amazing author Angela Buck.

Children with unhealthy self-esteem tend to fear interacting with others. They're uncomfortable in social settings and hate group activities as well as independent pursuits. When challenges arise, they feel negative toward finding solutions and belittle themselves. Children with low self esteem are afraid to say "I do not understand this." And therefore do not learn and develop as the others do. They do not know their strengths and focus on their weaknesses. The Magic Sunglasses give a sense of optimism throughout the story line. An interactive workshop is available just by contacting the author. This is where children can benefit from the participational activities and make friends through the interaction. They are encouraged to have fun, be creative and play imaginatively in order to explore the themes. In small groups the children can concentrate on the issues and communicate openly in discussions. This will enable the individuals within the groups to challenge and understand their own and others fear and problems. They will learn to inspire themselves and others to explore passions and dreams. All children in the previous workshops, enjoyed, learnt and benefitted from them. Many parents noticed differences in their children. Many children improved their self-esteem. Teachers were impressed and as a result were inspired to re-book again and again.

When these stories actually transform a child's life, bringing joy and happiness to it, you know the story is a winner. This touching, inspirational and heart-warming plot has repeatedly been transformed into optimistic true life stories for many children who have read it. From some of which, Angela has been inundated with positive testimonials, rewarding reviews and written letters of compliments.

"I was told by a friend of mine to get the magic sunglasses for my daughter who is 7, she loved it and I did too. I try to make her realize how special she is and this book was great in explaining this, the pictures were great and Katie loved to read it. in fact shes read it again and again, I will definitely recommend this to children with lack of confidence and parents who think their children may need help in self esteem. "Barbara Deaglee

"I used to hear my 8-year-old daughter putting herself down, saying things like" I'm so ugly "or" I can not do anything right. "I tried to assure her that none of these things were true, but nothing I said seemed to make any difference. I gave her The Magic Sunglasses and she loved it. shes read it a few times now. she is now so much happier, she comes home from school and tells us what shes been good at and she has even joined a dance club. I'd recommend this book to every mum who is worried about their child being down. " Julie Jacobs – Melton Mowbray

"Dear Angela, Thank you very much for your workshop at my childs school last month. She came home excitable telling me about her day, playing games and learning about the magic sunglasses. I thought nothing more of it until I went to a parent teacher meeting. I was told my daughter who is 7 had come out of herself. I know she was a little shy, would be afraid to talk out in class and would shy from asking the teacher for help sometimes, but I was told that she is now much chattier and participates in the classroom discussions more. Im amazed she has even auditioned for the school play. This I have been told has resulted in her grades improving. I have also seen a happier child, she is a lot chattier, has had many new friends round for tea and is very keen on keeping up to date with the website … "David Harper – Oldham

As you can see from these views, Angela Buck is a very inspirational lady, not only to children but to adults and parents over the globe. She shines beacons of light, inspires lasting change and empowers emotionally happy children to reach endless possibilities !!! How refreshing and delightful to benefit from The Magic Sunglasses and see it empower our children's minds and free their spirits to become flourishing children and ultimately successful adults! Get Involved in To her quest or to introduce your child to Samantha, Angela or The Magic Sunglasses purely click on the link – Http://themagicsunglasses.com .

Source by Kaley Herrick

Rescuer's Mentality and What It Looks Like in a Relationship

Rescuer's Mentality and How You Can Tell if You Struggle in this Area

This article is going to go into much more detail about what "rescuing mentality" looks like. A rescuer usually will enable or make excuses for the other's behavior, even if it is destructive towards the rescuer. It can also be a false sense of responsibility for someone else's feelings. If the other person is unhappy or angry, the rescuer will start to feel bad or even apologize to the unhappy person. They are looking to rescue, with little or nothing in return for themselves. Over time, they may resent the person they are "rescuing."

For example, Sarah had been in a relationship with David for almost 2 years. She's always been very responsible for her finances before she met David. David had always been behind on paying off his bills. He was constantly in between work every 7-9 months. She did not pay attention too much to this since everything started off as such a whirlwind romance. Sarah assumed that as they moved closer to a solid relationship, (in her mind, it meant when they got married) David would assume more of a responsible role. What she had blinded herself to was a pattern that they both developed in their relationship. She was particularly blind to how she contributed to this relationship pattern. He would often borrow about $ 200-300 from her every month. He would promise to pay it back. He would usually pay her back, but inconsistently and never the full amount. Over those 2-3 years, he borrowed a larger amount. She was starting to fall a little bit behind in paying her bills. She started to quietly borrow money from her parents, but was vague about why she was falling behind. She wanted her parents to really like David. Her parents were surprised at her asking for financial help since Sarah was always on top of paying her bills on time. As long as Sarah was there to "rescue" him from taking responsibility over his finances, he had no incentive to change. She did not recognize she was rescuing him from consequences that might have motivated him to take ownership for himself. After a few times of falling behind on her own bills, she started to feel resentment towards David but would not voice how she felt to him.

Frequently, rescuers on a deeper level are looking to be rescued themselves. Often times, most do not even recognize it. Is it possible you might be a rescuer? Perhaps you know a loved one who struggles with this tendency. As a clinician, I've seen several repeating common themes that rescuers share. It is a dynamic of co-dependency when there is a rescuer and one being rescued. What are some of the qualities to look for to know if you have rescue tendencies:

  1. A false sense of responsibility for someone else 's feelings or behavior. You feel guilty if you do not "fix" the "rescued party's" situation or feelings.
  2. A need to be needed, especially to divert attention on what needs to be attended to within you.
  3. Deep-seated fear of rejection, so to counteract that fear there is rescuing tendencies to prevent any rejection of you.
  4. Strong loyalty to those you rescue, but not necessarily getting strong loyalty in return.
  5. Great efforts put into your relationships where you rescue, but deep dissatisfaction and unhappiness in those relationships.
  6. Justification of your "rescuing tendencies" motivated by love or concern, but later struggle with resentment.

Source by Gracie C Lu