Relationships are unique beasts. They generally take on a life of their own and they progress at a pace that hopefully syncs up with what both the woman and the man involved want. Sometimes, the couple is walking down two separate paths and one is headed towards something more serious while the other seems content on just casually dating. More often than not it's the woman who wants to secure a commitment with her guy. As women we understand that, given the fact that we recognize how rare it is to find a man who fulfills us in every way. Short of giving your guy an ultimatum, is there any other way to get him to be more serious about you? You may think that there's not, but there are actually a number of very simple, yet incredibly effective, steps you can take to show him why you are the woman he should be devoting his heart and his life to.
Make the Relationship Fun and as Drama Free as Possible
You would not be at all surprised if I said that women tend to be more dramatic than men when it comes to relationships, would you? We all know it's true. As women, we often seem to stumble on issues waiting to be addressed. We bring them up with the man we adore and before we know it they've taken on a life of their own and an argument ensues. To men there really is no rhyme or reason to this. All they want to do is have a relationship that is emotionally fulfilling, fun and easy. Men do not want to be in a relationship that is hard work. It does not appeal to them at all.
That's why it's essential that you keep the drama, within your relationship, to a minimum. There are a lot of advantages that come with overlooking the small things. I know it can be troubling to be with a man who sometimes glances the way of a passing pretty girl and it can be disheartening if he does not always remember your birthday or other important events. You need to evaluate how important those things are to you versus how fulfilling it is when the relationship is in a good, peaceful and loving place. As hard as it is, overlooking small, inconsequential things, can help draw a man closer to you because he'll view you as someone who does not take life too seriously.
Do not Go On and On About the Future
It's incredibly hard not to focus on where you want the relationship to go when you feel it's the "ideal" connection for you. As a woman, you likely enjoy planning things and your future definitely falls into that category. If you bring up taking the relationship to the next level before your guy is ready to hear it, an invisible, emotional barrier is going to be thrown up and he's going to fight you on moving things to a more serious place. A man who is not sure he wants to commit can become very protective of his space and time.
If you act as though you do not care either way whether the relationship ends up in a more committed place, he'll find you incredibly enchanting and intriguing. Men are accustomed to dealing with women who are chasing after the dream of a wedding and a happily-ever-after committed future. They know that sooner or later, if you two are hitting it off, the inevitable conversation about how many kids they want or what style of home they want to live in is on the not-too-distant horizon. Surprise him by staying mum on anything to do with commitment. If you can do that he's going to wonder, sooner rather than later, why you are not eager to get him to take the relationship to a more serious place.
Do Not Lose Focus on Your Own Goals
One major mistake that women make when they're trying to build a strong and lasting connection with a man is they start to sacrifice their own life in favor of his. If you start giving up your own interests, your own career goals or your friends for a man he'll find you that much less interesting. He does not want you to give up your life for him. Firstly, it shows that you do not value yourself as an important, worthwhile and successful human being. You're willing to trade-in what you want for a man. Any man who finds that fetching is not worth being in a relationship with because he'll take your behavior as a sign that you want to be controlled.
Also, if you start giving up the things you enjoy so that you have more time with your guy it makes him feel as though he has to fill in all that empty space. In other words, if you repeatedly cancel plans with friends or rearrange your work schedule to accommodate him, he's going to feel responsible for your time and happiness. That's a heavy burden for any man in a growing relationship to carry. You do not want that to happen.
Show your man that you're not willing to sacrifice the woman you are for him. It's important that he understands that he has to fit within the life you already have. If he feels, even for a moment, that you are becoming dependent on him for your happiness or that he has to be there to fill in your time, he'll start to feel pressure or resentment and eventually the relationship will likely fail.