Love Readings and the Chariot Tarot Card

In a love Tarot reading, the Chariot Tarot card is a symbol of energy, action, courage and success. The Chariot card is a symbol of our intentions, and if it is love you seek, the Chariot often signifies the onset of new romantic experiences or relationships.

In a Love Tarot reading, The Chariot can also represent changes in one's relationship. The Chariot Tarot card often urges one to redirect their energy towards one's own goals, and if you have been consumed by your current relationship, the Chariot reminds you to put the focus back onto yourself.

Traditionally, the Chariot Tarot card is the card of triumph and victory. In a reading, the Chariot references one's ability to accomplish their goals. More importantly, the Chariot symbolizes balance. In this regard, he represents one's capacity to manage one's instincts or primal drives. He represents true will power and his appearance in a Tarot reading often signifies the need to direct one's energy and ambitions with intention and confidence.

The element of balance also has implications in a love Tarot reading. The Chariot often signifies the need to balance one's relationship with one's own ambitions. If you are career focused, then you need to be sure you do not neglect your emotional and personal life, and if you are family focused, you need to be sure you take time for yourself and pursue the things that are important to you.

The Chariot's appearance in a Love reading can be a sign that one must take control of their life. He can represent the individual that has become consumed by their emotions or has issues with losing control. The Chariot in a reversed position can often indicate feelings of being out of control or overwhelmed. No matter what the situation is, the Chariot always urges you to find balance in your own life, and this can be particularly true with one's intimate relationships.

Source by Carolyn Naiman

What Are the Goals and Objectives of a Team Building Workshop?

In any Organisation, and at any level, a facilitated Team Building workshop can be a possible route to improve the Team and to foster high performance. A Team is a powerful entity, as we know from sport. A high performing Team not only achieves success, but also has dynamism and an energy that nurtures individual high achievement and a high degree of job satisfaction.

The Overall Objective

The overall objective of any Team Building Workshop should be that your Team is further down the road towards achieving the status of a high performing Team. This is a useful theme for the workshop, as it keeps the Team thinking forward to where we want to be, and planning how we can get from where we are now to the forward vision.

This fundamental objective gives us a framework that should be part of any Team Building Workshop –

1. Where are we now?
2. Where do we want to be?
3. How will we get there?

This framework can be used on a Team Build Workshop to address either or both of the 2 separate branches of the Team's goals and objectives –

1. The Team's objectives regarding our Team purpose, our Team goals and performance targets
2. The Team's objectives regarding our Teamwork, how we effectively we work together to achieve our Team purpose and objectives

Both strands will come together at the end of the Team Building workshop, in the form of strategies, plans and actions to take us forward.

Team Purpose Objectives and Goals

When addressing our Team Goals and achievements in a Team Building Workshop, it is useful to begin with a fresh look at your Team purpose and where it fits in the Organisation purpose. It is also important to identify the Organisation 'strategic goals and the goals the Organisation has given the Team, as this is our context.

The objective in a Team Building Workshop then is to ask ourselves –

1. How well placed are we to achieve our Team Goals?
2. What are our strengths as a Team? What have we got to achieve these goals?
3. What is blocking, or preventing us from achieving?
4. What do we need to improve or develop to achieve success?

Our Goals in terms of Teamwork

Teamwork is the way we work together to achieve our goals. It includes our values, attitudes, relationships, and Team processes. The key to removing blocks and moving forward in a Team is to identify what PROCESS can we use to improve on this issue? There will always be a Team process that will improve relationship issues, effective work practices or blocks to high performance.

To move forward as a Team, it is useful to think in terms of Tuckman's Stages of Team Development. This will give us a good objective framework to identify where we are, and where we want to be.

In the Team Building Workshop, the Team can –

1. Review and assess their current Stage of Team Development
2. Identify their future vision, where we want to be as a Team. This involves both a vision and clearly identified goals.
3. Identify clear short term goals, the next steps we must achieve to move them to the next level
4. Plan how we will do this, strategies and actions to achieve those next steps.

Planning the Team's Way Forward

Taking the 2 strands of goals together, the Team can sift out the mission critical areas for future development. A good Team Building Workshop should finish with a brainstorm and planning session so that the Team has a plan for improving each specific issue. They leave with action plans and new Team Processes to enable the Team to work effectively together.

Source by Kate Tammemagi

Top 5 Physical Therapy Customer Relationship Management Tips

As practice owners and many times new business owners, we are thrown into the worlds of marketing and advertising to bring new customers into our practice. This includes patients but it also includes physicians, DME providers and relationships with community resources. These customers are necessary compliments to the services provided in rehabilitation including local fitness centers, community centers and programs to provide continued education and support to our patients.

Once a client base is established, it is vital to continue to bring new clients into a practice but to also show appreciation for their loyalty and continued support. Customer relations management can be the difference between practice sustainability and high volume turnover which takes a large amount of staff and time to manage. By developing a plan for customer loyalty, the basis of a company is not only acquiring patients but continuing to provide them with updated service and quality care. An ongoing CRM plan can include many activities to assure customers are happy with the services they have received and to assure they will continue to seek your services in the future. A plan may include:

1. Be honest: A customer must know what they are purchasing, whether it is a tangible item such as a piece of equipment, or a service such as Physical Therapy treatment. By having a discussion about covered benefits and non-covered services in advance, a plan of care can be established and agreed upon prior to initiating services.

2. Do not surprise the individual with additional / hidden costs: Customers appreciate your honesty and value having all information necessary to make an informed decision. Surprise costs will lead the customer to think there are other items they are not aware of which will lead to distrust over time. This perceived deception will ultimately ruin a customer-provider relationship.

3. Help find what the customer needs: Assisting a customer access necessary service is a vital part of being a Physical Therapist. Whether the customer needs to access local community programs or to access services closer to their home to increase compliance, these acts of good service will lead to improved customer relations. These acts will come back to the practice by having the customer then share their positive experience with others they come in contact with reinforcing your marketing strategy. Providing bridges of access to necessary services is a responsible cornerstone of practice management.

4. Add personal touches to the care: Send a simple handwritten Thank you note after a client enrolls with your service / practice or a congratulations card once they achieve their goals. The note is a gesture which states your true appreciation of the customer choosing your service in a competitive market. Thanking someone for their effort in choosing your service establishes a basis of mutual respect and appreciation.

5. Call the customer / Solicit Feedback: Taking time to call patients and customers to ask what they think is an extremely valuable tool. This provides an opportunity to check on patients after discharge to see if they have maintained their goals and exercise programs, assure they have accessed the appropriate community services to support their rehabilitation, as well as assess their level of satisfaction with services provided. The phone call is an opportunity for open discussion as well as gaining targeted information from that consumer. This can head off future problems and work towards establishing an ongoing relationship with the customer. This will again lead to customer satisfaction and loyalty.

Customer Relationship Management (CRM) and developing consumer loyalty is achieved through simple, calculated tasks. By showing customers you are loyal to and honest with them, they will be satisfied with your services and be loyal in return. Feedback in any format will help you understand how your services and attempts at consumer satisfaction are perceived. Consumer perception is vital to the long term growth and sustainability of your practice. Without it you operate in a vacuum implementing strategies which may be unnecessary or unwanted. Loyal customers are your biggest asset in the maintenance and growth of your company.

Source by Gerilyn M. Gault

Causes and Effects of Dysfunctional Family Relationships

To raise a healthy child requires consistent reliable diligence, love, kindness, effective communication and the ability to apply reasonable parameters and boundaries of discipline in the home. Understandably, financial and emotional provisions are standard necessities if one is to raise a balanced family and have a reasonable lifestyle. When parents repeatedly fail to deliver their roles with awareness and sensitivity to each member of the family, the family unit may become unbalanced. Difficult behaviours may result in one or all of the family members. Dysfunctional relationships occur and are maintained when the action and communication lines are continuously breeched and broken and can not be restored for the benefit of each party.

The infant is designed positively at birth to receive a level of quality nurturing from its biological care givers. Apart from the infant's absolute dependency, all infants come into this world with physiological and emotional needs that ought to be considered responsibly and lovingly as they grow and develop. The family environment that parents create plays an important role in determining how an infant will be raised and whether it will be a well adjusted child, teenager and finally, a responsible adult, who in turn will rear its own well orientated family.

Long term deprivation, neglect or abuse of specific needs (caused by insensitive parenting roles), are able to affect a child's development, emotional responses and personality formation. These behaviours will readily transfer from parents to their offspring. If dysfunctional role modelling and communication have occurred within the family without any intervention and no behaviour modifications are managed in the individual's lifetime, the transmission of these behaviours is probable and will very likely prevail into the next generation.

Frequent displays of negative (or absent) communication and behaviour, by one or more persons within the family, which are ultimately difficult for the family members to cope with, will seep into the family, creating a dysfunctional set of relationships. Each individual in the family may encounter a level of reaction while relationships spiral and change into a fixed pattern of responses that deal with what they are experiencing. These burdening moments defy the norm. Families may be openly oblivious of these events and may accept the havoc as it comes because this is what they are used to, while others unused to the change may grasp for unusual coping mechanisms or hopefully, realistic and humane solutions to avoid their re-occurrence .

All families experience their unique troubles and problems at some stage or another. In all fairness, these events should pass. We all know this. Life in this millennium is not designed to be a straight line without hitches and bumpy rides now and again. However, when problems re-occur frequently in the home, parents need to be aware of them and pay attention to their remedy if they are to avoid permanently dysfunctional relationships within the family.

Symptoms that may be the cause or effect of the dysfunctional family may include one or more of these consistent behaviours:

– Difficult parents without adequate flexibility and insight
– Absent parenting style (there, but not there)
– Ridicule or belittling, or over-criticizing
– Prejudice towards one or more family members
– Mixed feelings of love and hate
– Faulty communication
– Lack of attentiveness to issues of importance (brush off, downplay or avoidance)
– Lack of care or concern for the needs of another (absent care or denial)
– Lacking in the ability to empathise with children, siblings or parents

– Dual values ​​and double standards, or lack of clear boundaries
– Diminished ability to make decisions
– Over-interest or micro management of one member or the entire family
– Insensitivity towards other family member (s)
– Emotional intolerance
– Emotional outbursts
– Emotional insecurities
– Depression, deep rooted anxiety and feelings of gloom and despair
– Childish behaviours in adults
– Poor self image and worth, or lack of sufficient self identity
– Controlled / contrived speech or stifled speech
– Verbal abuse which others must tolerate
– Sexual or physical abuse that other members must accommodate
– Overworked family environment lacking any family fun (workaholic – no recreation)
– Perfectionist behaviours, over-demanding parents or children
– Disowning behaviours of parents or children
– Isolation or inadequate socialising with others
– Narcissistic parents or children
– Rule-by-fear parenting
– Bullying (to re-gain the upper hand)
– Growing up too fast because of advanced roles
– Reduction of roles and responsibilities caused by over protectiveness

Source by Kiki Bakker

Common Reasons That Affairs Do not Last

I get a good deal of correspondence from wives who are hoping that their husband's affair fails miserably. These wives are typically looking for statistics that are going to give them reassurance that the affair is ultimately going to end and go up in flames.

Someone might ask: "my friends are telling me that affairs never last and that my husband's affair is eventually going to end without my needing to do a lot about it. They say that I am wasting a lot of energy worrying because the odds are in my favor. In truth, I do not know a lot of people who have cheated. and the one couple that I do know who met each other when having an affair actually ended up leaving their spouses and getting married. Admittedly, they have a rocky marriage and trust is always an issue between them. But their relationship is still going. so is it true that most affairs do not last? and if so, why? "

The Numbers: It is absolutely true that most affairs do not last. Statistically speaking, only between 3 and 5 percent of affairs end in marriage. This is quite low. And when you consider that 75% of second marriages fail, you get a sense of how unlikely it is that even if an affair couple marries, they will have a life-long relationship. I'd suspect that the divorce rate for couples whose relationship started as an affair would be higher than the 75% divorce rate of second marriages.

Post why? For the same reasons that affairs in general do not last. I will list some of these reasons below.

The Relationship Is Based On Secrecy, A Lack Of Integrity, And Lies: Any time your relationship is based on negative, shameful things like secrecy and lies, this does not give it a very good foundation. In truth, neither person likely feels very proud of this background. There is shame and guilt from the very beginning. While other couples will proudly reminisce about meeting in church or on a blind date, the cheating couple have to reminisce about how they pretty much started their relationship in a closet while lying to others. This is not the best way to begin. Not only that, but often this couple's friends and family members are secretly hoping that they fail because they do not approve of how the relationship started.

If He'll Do It With You, He'll Do It To You: This is probably the biggest obstacle that these couples face. They struggle with trust. And this is understandable because each person has already shown themselves to be capable of cheating and leaving their spouse for the cheating partner. Now that the cheating parter has become the spouse, what is to stop the cheating from happening with someone new? Of course, every one wants to believe that they are so special that they are soul mates who will never need or want to cheat again. Statistically speaking though, this is usually not true.

The Dynamic Of The Relationship Changes: Remember when I said that the people in the cheating relationship believe that they are special? Well, in a sense they are sort of right. It is hard for a marriage to compete with an affair – at least on one level – because it's a fantasy that is not rooted in reality. The affair partner is not having to pick up anyone's dirty socks. And the woman in the affair just wants to focus on the positive – she does not nag or exhibit any real expectations, especially at first. Theoretically, it is all about fun.

But when they are in a long term relationship or married, this changes. Suddenly, she does have to pick up his dirty socks. She seems him the bathroom cutting his nose hairs and burping at the dinning room table. He sees her dying her hair and plucking her eyebrows. That's not as attractive as seeing her only when she's only at her best.

In short, the monotony of a marriage suddenly replaces the excitement of the affair. And it's not nearly as exciting and magical. This can leave both people feeling very let down and disappointed that they traded in their old life and hurt so many people when they are now pretty much living their old life with someone new and still having a new set of complications.

In Hindsight, The Affair Did Not Make Everything Better: People often assume that the affair is going to fix all of their problems or insecurities. This just is not possible as you have to do this for yourself. So that is another set of disappointments that soon become apparent.

In short, an affair rarely lives up to the promise it starts with. Once it has to exist in reality, it changes. Plus, it often starts with so much against it that is nearly impossible to keep the momentum going.

So I would agree with your friends that the odds are definitely in your favor – simply because the odds and statistics tell us that most affairs are not lasting and do not end in marriage. However, I do not think that this is a reason to just sit back and do nothing for your own healing. There is plenty that you can do for yourself to move yourself forward regardless of what your husband is doing at the time. I think that it's important that you do not just wait around for him to come to a decision or realization. Self help or counseling can mean that you move forward regardless of what he decides. And this does not mean that you're moving away from your marriage necessarily. It just means that you are strengthening yourself so that when there is a resolution, you are ready.

Source by Katie Lersch

People Management – The Objectives in Managing People

The new Manager will generally have great expertise in the technical side of the role, and high performance here will have gained them the promotion to people manager or supervisor. However, in every walk of life the newly appointed supervisor will have less developed people management, communication and people skills. Whether the work is in the shop floor, a hospital, an office or a business, the new Manager will have technical expertise but will require to build their people management and team building skills.

The Objectives of People Management

Identifying clear objectives will help any Manager begin to build the competencies they need to manage people effectively. These objectives are:

1. To Achieve through the Results of Others . Up to now, the Manager has been responsible for his or her own performance and results. Now, you will be measured on the results of your team members. Success in people management is having team members that outperform the best of the best, and they do it without the Manager's help.

2. To Win Followers. It is the job of the leader to win the respect of the followers and to show them the direction forward. An effective people manager does not want to be liked, but they do want to show respect and to gain respect. Success is when the Team Members trust that they have a captain of the ship who will both keep them safe, and who will build the high performing team that will succeed.

3. To Build Personal Leadership. You can not lead others if you can not lead yourself. Before being a Manager, you could be loose cannon. Now you must control everything you do to ensure you win the respect of others and motivate them to achieve their goals. Appreciate that your attitude and behaviour will influence your team members either positively or negatively. Use your behaviour positively to encourage others to improve and achieve.

4. To Structure and Organise the World Load Effectively. People management involves knowing the strengths of your people and ensuring that you use those strengths effectively to achieve high results. That does not necessarily mean building a team of individual specialists, quite the reverse. Effective people management means building the right team to achieve your team's objectives. You may need to build flexible people who can step in to each other's role, or a team who can brainstorm and problem solve any aspect of the team's workload. Start with the end in mind. Identify what type of team you want, and work out how you will train individuals and the team to get there.

5. To Build Effective Team Processes. Team processes are the systems we use to enable the team to achieve its goals. How do we solve problems, address issues, generate new ideas, monitor throughput of work or review how we are working together as a team? Think in terms of process as the solution to most work issues is to have the right process to deal with this. Success is when the team have an identifiable process they can call on to removing any block or implement any improvement. A high performing team will use this without the leader being present.

6. To Build Positive Working Relationships with Senior Management and other Colleagues. People Management involves not just managing your own people, and yourself, but managing your relationships with everyone. It is the role of the Manager to be capable of drawing down resources for the Team and ensuring that we work productively with other departments. Your team will want a leader who can influence and persuade others. A Manager must know what type of relationship is effective and they will go about building positive working relationships with a network of people throughout the organisation. Success is when everyone wants to do business with you and others will listen to your viewpoint.

7. To Build the Habit of Setting Short -term Goals to Achieve Long-term Objectives. An effective People Manager takes steps forward every week and every month. Those steps are in identifiable goals, and those goals must be foundation bricks so that further goals will be more achievable. Managers walk and talk goals and goal achievement. Goals are motivational for the team members and for the Manager.

8. Celebrate Success. Good people management is about recognising milestones, goal achievements or individual breakthroughs, and celebrating these with the team. Life should be fun, and the best celebrations are small, personal recognitions. A homemade cake is more powerful that an insignificant bonus! Managing people is about knowing people, and knowing what will be rewarding for each.

Source by Kate Tammemagi

Get to Love – Is Your Relationship Superficial Or Deep?

Is your present love life superficial or deep? Do you even know? Or perhaps you may think you are being deep but really you are superficial? Do you really know? Perhaps I can help you first by explaining what superficial and deep actually means, then you may be able to get a clearer idea which side of the line you stand on.

So what does superficial mean? Superficial means being fairly shallow in character and attitude. It means focusing on the surface reality and not what lies beneath. It means that there is not much substance. It means that you are only concerned with seeing the obvious without exploring any underlying issues and circumstances. It means that you are only appearing to be real, but you are not truly being real.

And what does deep mean? Deep means that you extend yourself beyond the surface to see inward, to see and understand more. Deep means that you can see beyond boundaries and you can get an inside view. Deep means that you come from a place inside yourself that extends far within you. Deep means you have a rich, intense and nurturing environment. Deep means that your experience is coming from the middle, the most intense part of yourself and not just from the surface.

So now that you know what superficial and deep mean which one are you? Are you superficial or deep? Is your relationship superficial or deep?

No doubt in some life experiences you are probably a bit of both. Surely in some situations it would not serve you well to be deep with everyone and every situation. But in a loving relationship you should only choose the deep option. Surprisingly though I think it is quite common for many couples to be stuck in the superficial on too many levels.

Over time this may lead to a couple being distant from each other. It may lead to lack of communication. It may even lead to the end of the relationship all together. The challenge is to develop a deeper connection with yourself and your partner and remove as many barriers as possible.

If you want to get to love then stop living your life on a superficial level. Do not get stuck in day-to-day superficial routines where one day you wake up and find that you are not happy, that your life is empty. Make a commitment to always strive toward depth of character, depth of emotion, and depth of quality in your relationship.

The question you may be asking now is where do I start? You start by understanding yourself more, loving yourself more, getting to the depths of your self and then you can change the way your relationship is going.

Source by Jedha Dening

Business Planning – Short Term, Medium Term and Long Term Goals

As the owner or executive of a business, you have business goals. You have your 5-year goals or your long-term goals, and then there are steps along the way to reach those goals: medium-term goals and short-term goals.

If you were a retailer you might have the following goals:

Short term: sell a certain amount each sunny day, a certain amount each rainy day, a certain amount each holiday, weekend and weekday.

Medium term: Identify your best suppliers. Establish relationships with the most efficient, timely, reliable and innovative suppliers. Attract a higher number of baby boomers than your competition.

Long term: Continue to create innovations in the marketplace that can set you apart from your competition, such as innovative loyalty programs or bleeding edge point-of-purchase technology.

In business planning and business performance management, key performance indicators (KPIs) are fundamental to knowing where you are in your path towards a certain goal.

This is what Wikipedia says about KPIs:

A performance indicator or key performance indicator ( KPI) is a measure of performance. Such measures are commonly used to help an organization define and evaluate how successful it is, typically in terms of making progress towards its long-term organizational goals. KPIs can be specified by answering the question, "What is really important to different stakeholders?"

Wikipedia mentions long-term, but that misses out on important short-term and medium-term goals which I'll explain shortly. The other key term here is "stakeholders."

Each goal, whether short-term or long-term, has different stakeholders.

If you have daily retail sales goals, then a store manager has to have access to data that shows him or her in real time what's going on in the store.

If you have quarterly or yearly goals vis-avís your suppliers and different customer segments, then an operations person or sales director needs access to information that shows how you're doing along these paths.

If you have long-term plans to create innovative solutions and become a market leader, then the CEO or owner needs access to key data to know how you're doing against these plans.

Different time-frames, different stakeholders, different goals, different KPIs.

What tools are available to help you along the path?

David Abdo wrote a post entitled "Business Intelligence Software: Who Is It Really For?" where he argued for the democratization of business intelligence software across the enterprise.

The existence of a multi-tiered goal structure as illustrated above implies the requirement of a company to implement a business intelligence tool that's accessible to all people within the company.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

Source by Fernando Labastida

Older – Younger Lesbian Relationships

Older / younger or Age gap relationships have always appealed to many. The appeal is almost timeless, from Mrs Robinson to Loving Annabelle. In fact, it is regardless of orientation, gender, race or any other factors you can think of.

But of course, over here the spotlight will be shining on older / younger lesbian relationships.

Something Sexy: The Older / Younger Combination

There is just something incredibly romantic and sexy about being in a older / younger lesbian relationship, especially if both of you are at different stages of your lives.

Eg She is the successful career woman sought after by the industry, while you're the young and upcoming newbie under her mentorship; you're the charismatic female lecturer, while she is your intelligent, earnest student … you get the idea.

Its as if you come from 2 different worlds, and struck by a specially formulated arrow drawn from Cupid's bow, two magically becomes one.

I have always been fascinated with women older than me.

When I was a teenager I tried dating women in their mid-twenties to early thirties. Now that I'm in my twenties, the range got extended to dating women from the mid-twenties to early forties.

I used to think that the chances of finding a good bed partner was higher in an attractive older woman than the hot girl sitting next to you in lecture hall.

I was mostly right about my pre-conceived beliefs for my own experiences.

If this were to be plotted on a graph, it would depict an upward trend to a certain extent:

The older the woman I slept with, the more fun we had in bed.

But of course, that's not the only thing that makes them attractive. (Although its an undeniably big draw)

Given their archive of social experience, older women generally exude more confidence and carry themselves pretty well.

Dating them, to me, is a whole lot of fun and the emotional connection is often refreshing.

I like the conversations we have; the places we go; the food we eat; our different perspectives on the same things.

Older / Younger Lesbian Seductions

I especially like the way they drop subtle seductive hints when they find themselves liking you, before they say out loud that they like you.

I find their hints juicier than their verbal declarations.

Like for example, there was this one time, I met up with this lady whom I got to know from a party.

She was 39 and I was 22.

We met up for some coffee in the afternoon at a place that had cozy couches.

It was all polite at first, but as minutes passed, we found ourselves opening up and inching towards each other.

She was attractive and well maintained for her age, and looked like she was only in her late twenties, so I could not help looking at her face a little longer than I normally would.

It was electrifying how she reciprocated the 'looks' and periodically broke into seductive laughter.

I was hooked.

Sugar & Spice: All Things Nice

If you're a girl wanting to date an older woman, you probably wonder what will you have to offer to the relationship?

If an older woman is sugar, then a younger woman is all spice.

Younger women, with their hunger for new experiences, youthful energy and spontaneity, are infectious.

Also, the sweet adoration one gets from her younger counterpart is priceless.

An additional 'perk' you get when you have a younger girlfriend is that she keeps you more current than your peers and 'extends' your prime.

Plus you get a combination of sugar and spice in bed

Age gap: Is it a relationship issue ?

Some of you might have heard some lesbian horror stories of manipulation: younger girlfriends being presented as 'trophies', older girlfriends being exploited as 'sugar mummies'; but there will always be ladies like that around.

You can be of the same age as your girlfriend; be manipulated in the relationship, presented as a trophy and treated like a sugar mummy. At the end of the day you have to be selective about who you date.

Can a older / younger lesbian relationship go the distance? I think it can.

Although there can be many differences in this relationship (just like any other similar age relationship), once you can connect and find what makes both of you tick, the differences you have becomes like the faded background.

Afterall, we've seen so many of our straight counterparts in age gap relationships living their happily-ever-after stories. So, why not us?

Source by Kate Tan

Relationship Indifference and the Breakup of a Relationship

Relationship indifference is the true sign that a relationship is over. Relationships can go through stormy times: disagreements, friends, financial stresses, family illnesses can all test the fiber of a relationship. When a relationship has survived through tough times, what is keeping it together?

In those situations, love continues even though it may be struggling to be heard. The couple is still interested in each other; there is some part of their lives that keep them focused on a shared life together.

Friends and family may wonder why the couple is still making it against all odds. Outsiders may look on in admiration or with a tinge of envy that these people are successfully keeping it together.

Indifference vs Love / Conflicts in Relationships

A common expression is "love can turn to hate; hate can turn to love". What does that actually mean?

It certainly does not mean there are not people hating you. It also does not mean you could convince such people to love you. Nor does it mean you should waste your time trying.

What it does mean is that conflict can be mixed into the expression of love. Love can be expressed as passion, affection, commitment, appreciation consideration etc.

However, love's expression becomes confused when frustration, disappointment, fear, or insecurity take over in a relationship. These inherent feelings of conflict can cause a breakup and persist after the breakup. It may take many months for those feelings to diminish in power.

Conflict Can Bind the Two of You Together
(But Life is Too Short)

While these conflicted feelings of love persist, the person can not be indifferent. Though your ex may have decided to leave you, it does not mean those feelings have left him.

He may loudly and forcefully declare he's over you. He may even badmouth you to anyone who is interested. As long as the inner conflict remains, he's not over you. The conflict himself can keep pushing him back. When this happens there is a chance.

When indifference happens, the conflict in the relationship no longer has the power to push him back. Though your ex may be polite and even kind, he just will not be interested in going back into the relationship. You will not be able to convince him in any way to go back to you. He will have truly decided that it's over.

We all want the very best for our life. Romantic relationships are among the most important. No matter how well romantic relationships begin they can go wrong in so many ways.

He may have dumped you. You may have dumped him. No matter what happened in your own personal history, you may still feel it's not over. And you know, it would be best for both of you to get back together again.

After all the harsh words said, and all the hurtful actions, how do you manage this? How do I communicate with him? When do I do it? What about reconnecting sexually? Dating another guy when I still want to get back with my ex? Not talking to him at all?

All these require clarity. You have to be clear about the best ways to get your relationship back together again. Make a mistake at any stage and you destroy completely your chances to get your ex back.

Source by Leonora M. Easton