Is the grass really greener on the other side?
When I look at the marriage statistics today and over 60% of marriages end in divorce, I often wonder what was the nail that sealed the coffin in that relationship?
Most of the time it's 80/20.
What in the world is 80/20? Originally the 80/20 rule was founded by an Italian economist named Vilfredo Pareto who observed that 80% of the income in Italy was received by 20% of the Italian population. The assumption is that most of the results in any situation are determined by a small number of causes.
Bishop TD Jakes has another idea about 80/20:
"Nothing in life is 100% … If what you have gives you 80%, thank God for it … Many people are not thankful for the 80, so the 20 begins to look bigger than the 80. They will leave the 80 for the 20. They will change jobs for the 20. They will leave their wives or husbands for the 20. They will leave their church for the 20. They will do this when its the 80 that God wants them to have. "
For the longest time I battled with what was wrong with the "other" person, when in actuality I was looking at the "20". If we could stop for a moment and take inventory in our lives, I'm sure the "80" would look a lot bigger. Look at your children, your job, your home, even the clothes you wear. There are times when we get caught up in growing up and getting ahead that we do not slow down and pay gratitude for what is placed before us.
So your mate did not buy you the right gift for Christmas, so what your child did not bring home straight A's, so what your boss did not acknowledge the awesome job you did on that strenuous project …. Turn it around and look at the 80!
Think of the widow who does not have a mate to celebrate Christmas with. Think of the mother whose child just dropped out of school. And think about someone who was just laid off and now can not find an equivalent job. Do I need to stress the 80 !!
Do I dare say that not looking at the "20" is an easy task? No! It is difficult, but you have to want to see the "80" versus the "20". It all starts in your mind. It's unfortunate that society gloats and prospers on the "20". Turn on any news program and you will find more bad stories than good.
Change your routine. Start today and re-program your mind to see the entire picture. See the "80" and know that you are blessed and favored.
Now when looking at situations that arise, I tend to feel the 80/20 rule tugging at the conscious of my mind.
This is not because I have it down to a science or formula, but because I remember that I would rather be at 80 than 0.