Marriage as an institution and a practice has been around since ancient times. Anthropologists tell us that it likely started out as a way for different tribes of people to create alliances amongst each other. It has also had a number of historically-significant benefits, such as allowing for the couple to share in the duties of maintaining a household, making a living, and raising children.
Over the past few thousand years and through today, marriage has evolved into something more than just a social contract. It has become a vehicle for something called romantic love. And, even after the white-hot passion of the first few years of marriage wears off for most couples, there remains a romantic connection between them throughout their lives. Not only that, but many couples report actually being not only lovers, but the best of friends as well.
Of course, every marriage goes through hard times when the couple do not feel romantic or loving toward each other – and definitely not like friends at all. Usually, this rough patch improves itself and gets better over time. And yet, for some couples, things just seem to grow colder between them by the year with no resolution in sight.
For a woman who feels that her husband has become more distant over the past few months or years, it is common to feel all alone in her pain. Friends may start to grow weary of hearing the complaints, and often family does not understand or can not help. It can be hard to know where to turn for advice.
If you find yourself saying often, "My husband ignores men," here are 7 tips for getting him to notice you again:
1. Decide whether he still loves you:
This is perhaps the hardest question to answer without some sort of verification from him. But, you need to try to determine within your heart whether your husband still loves you. If he has some love for you in his heart, there is hope for your relationship.
2. Pay more attention to him:
Unless you are the type of woman who pays too much attention to her husband's needs and not enough to her own (in which case, skip to # 3), you may be able to get your husband's attention by paying more attention to him. These things tend to work both ways.
3. Find ways to acknowledge his unique greatness :
Every man has one or more wonderful qualities. And, everybody – including your husband – likes to be made to feel special. Find ways to genuinely compliment him on whatever it is that makes him really shine. This will increase his warm feelings toward you.
4. Show interest in your personal appearance:
As the marriage progress over time, some people can let themselves go and tend to show less interest in their own appearance. Just doing little things to make yourself more attraction will get his attention.
5. Talk with him about exciting things you would like to do together:
When you are talking together, try to think of trips you will take and things you will see and do together as a couple. These could be just dreams or concrete plans – it does not matter.
6. Tell him how much he means to you:
Your husband is human and therefore likes to feel loved and appreciated. Tell him often how much you appreciate all he does for you and your family.
7. Do some innocent flirting with other men :
Men find their wives more attractive when other men find them attractive, too. Find a way to flirt innocently and you will get his attention. Caution: be sure to steer far clear of going over the line from flirtation into cheating. Healthy flirting, when done right and ethically, can actually help stir the fires of passion in a marriage.
Consider these 7 tips for getting your husband to notice you again.