Essential Guide for Men – Pandora and Charm Bracelet Buying for the Women in Your Lives

I’m a man, a fairly typical one at that, and as such present buying has never been my strong point. So after buying my other-half a pair of wellies for Christmas last year, I soon learned my lesson that this wasn’t going to be an acceptable option this year, and so had to do some research ahead of Christmas 2010…..

Now, to make it easier for me after the Wellington debacle, she had taken to dropping me a number of hints throughout the year that she would like a charm bracelet. All well and good, but as any of you who have ever Googled charm bracelets or tried to brave the local jewellery shop fronted by pushy camp sales assistants will know, it’s a minefield. So I thought I would offer everyone out there the benefit of my extensive research and (until recently) fairly limited but growing experience in the area.

So first, you have to negotiate all the different options out there, and there are a lot! Chamilia, Nomination, Truth, Pandora, the list is seemingly endless. By far the safest option, and one of the most popular by all accounts, is Pandora. They are Danish designers who only retail their products through their own shops or through selected top-end jewellers. Their ranges seem more extensive than some of the other brands, the quality seems great, and the lifespan and longevity of their products is what really swung it for me… a charm bracelet is after all supposed to be build upon over a period of time, so you need to know that you will be able to add to it for some time to come, and I felt more assured of that with the Pandora range than I did with any of the others.

Another benefit is the range of prices of the charms you can buy…. yes there are gold and diamond charms that whilst stunning, will set you back hundreds, but when something is all about sentiment rather than just material value as these things seem to be, it’s nice that friends, kids and just about everyone can contribute; with charms starting from just £25 each.

But what do you need? Well going back to my aforementioned fear of jewellery shops, I have to say I originally went to one of the dedicated Pandora shops and was assisted very informally by a delightful assistant who wasn’t at all pushy, and led me through the process with no intimidation and a good deal of humor. It was the Pandora shop in Windermere, Cumbria, and the assistant ably advised me that what you actually need to start with was the bracelet. Now there are some gorgeous leather and limited edition options which I believe start from just £30, all the way through to gold options for a little over a thousand pounds. The silver or the silver with a gold clasp are apparently the most popular, but here’s a word of advice…. if at all possible, have your lady with you for the sizing of it. My lass has slender wrists so the temptation was to get the smallest bracelet but by the time it has charms on it this wouldn’t have been big enough. That said, the shops are great with this, and if the size had been wrong, they would have been happy to change it after the event.

So once you have your bracelet, what else do you need? Well it seems there are something called “clips” of which it’s useful (though not imperative) to have two. These clips sit equidistantly spaced opposite the clasp and allow any charms in the early days to sit neatly between them at the top of the bracelet. Pandora also recommend this as a means of evenly distributing the weight of the bracelet and I have to say this does make sense. They are priced from £25 upwards depending on your choice of material, and I think they’re a must. Additionally, as these charm bracelet things can be carrying a lot of value (both in money and sentimental terms) very quickly, I’d also suggest a safety chain. Again whilst they aren’t completely necessary they do look very pretty, and you know that in the unlikely event of the clasp coming loose, you have the backup of the chain. These start from £70 depending on how elaborate you want to be.

Then of course come the charms, and I must admit I’ve developed quite an addiction to buying these, visiting a further two jewellers after making my original purchase, both of whom were similarly delightful and helpful and not scary at all; AJ Parkes in Northwich, Cheshire and Silvertree in Lancaster, Lancashire. You can literally get almost anything in any material, with any stone, carrying any sentiment. You can also buy them online but I would recommend that you check out the Pandora site first for recommended stockists to ensure you get the genuine article as I have heard a few horror stories about copy goods.

Another term you might hear is “spacers” – now that my girlfriend has a number of charms on there, you sometimes find that there is a small space left which is too small for a charm, but would neatly accommodate one of the spacers in the range – not as elaboarate or extensive in terms of selection as the charms but small and pretty and with prices starting from around £20 are nice little stocking fillers in themselves.

The cherry on the cake is that the stockists always offer a gift wrapping service, and all the items come in authentic Pandora packaging (box and gift bag wrapped with ribbon) and look like you have put an awful lot of time and effort into the purchase of it, even if you haven’t!

In a rare romantic twist, I hid the items all around the house so that each time the other half visited the airing cupboard, the crockery cupboard etc, she would be greeted by a pretty little bag with a bow containing yet another lovely charm…. a little touch that took no effort at all but kept a smile on her face for the whole day. I think I have now redeemed myself for the boot disaster next year and can rest easy in the knowledge that Pandora has given ME a great gift too…. it’s a complete dream for guys like me who are effectively being offered the ease of being able to give thoughtful, romantic, appropriate gifts at Christmas, Birthdays, Valentines, Anniversaries for years to come…. brownie points galore!

So I’d recommend charm bracelets, and in particular, Pandora to any guys out there looking for presents for the Mrs / Mother / women in their lives. And with a complementary range of other products (necklaces, rings, earrings etc) the possibilities and point scoring opportunities are endless…. it’s a shame the bank account isn’t!

Source by Ian Howard

Importance of Value Education

Seven sins: wealth without work, pleasure without conscience, knowledge without character,commerce without morality, science without humanity, worship without sacrifice, politics without principle.

-Mahatma Gandhi

Just in case you believe that great social problems are beyond your scope, consider this story: God said to me: Your task is to build a better world. I answered: How can I do that? The world is such a large, vast place, so complicated now, and I am so small and useless. There nothing I can do. But God in his great wisdom said: Just build a better you.

– Anonymous

The moral values present a true perspective of the development of any society or nation. They tell us to what extent a society or nation has developed itself. Values are virtues, ideals and qualities on which actions and beliefs are based. Values are guiding principles that shape our world outlook, attitudes and conduct. Values however are either innate or acquired. Innate values are our inborn divine virtues such as love, peace, happiness, mercy and compassion as well as the positive moral qualities such as respect, humility, tolerance, responsibility, cooperation, honesty and simplicity.

Acquired values are those external values adopted at your “place of birth” or “place of growth” and

are influenced by the immediate environment. Examples of acquired values are one’s mode of dress, the way you bless, cultural customs, traditions, habits and tendencies.

The main causes of moral degeneration are:

– Lack of respect for the sanctity of human life.

– Breakdown of parental control of children in families

– Lack of respect for authority, seen through the brazen breaking of the law and

Total disregard for rules and regulations

– Crime and corruption

– Abuse of alcohol and drugs

– Abuse of women and children, and other vulnerable members of society.

– Lack of respect for other people and property.

To solve all these type problems it is necessary to know the main causes of the above problems. We know today children are tomorrow’s citizens. If we give good education to the present day children, the future of the next generations will be well. My opinion education is the solution for all types of the problems. Now we are living in the modern century. If we use science and technology in the proper way it is not difficult for us to solve all the problems of the non-moral and value things.The main object of the study is to inculcate moral and value based education in schools and colleges and to know the attitude of intermediate students towards moral values. Gandhiji advised the inmates of Sabarmati Ashram on the practice of the following values in their day-

to-day life:

1. Ahimsa

2. Non-stealing

3. Non-possession

4. Swadeshi

5. Manual work

6. Fearlessness

7. Truth

8. Chastity

9. Equality of religion

10. Removal of untouchability

11. Control of palate

Important life goals and personal characteristics:

Life goals and Personal characteristics are very necessary for all types of persons in the society.

Life Goals:

– A world at peace (free of war and conflict)

– Freedom (independence, free choice)

– Wisdom (a mature understanding of life)

– Happiness (contentedness)

– An exciting life (a stimulating, active life)

– Equality (brotherhood, equal opportunity for all)

– A comfortable life (a prosperous life)

– Self-respect (self-esteem, feeling good about yourself)

– Salvation (religiously saved, eternal life)

– Mature love (sexual & spiritual intimacy)

– Social recognition (respect, admiration)

– A sense of accomplishment (I’ve made a lasting contribution)

– Family security (taking care of loved ones)

– True friendship (close companionship)

– A world of beauty (beauty of nature and the arts)

– Inner harmony (freedom from inner conflict)

– Pleasure (an enjoyable, leisurely life)

– National security (protection from attack)

Personal Characteristics:

– Self-controlled (thinks first, restrained, self-disciplined)

– Honest (sincere, truthful, disclosing)

– Loving (affectionate, tender, caring)

– Ambitious (hard working, aspiring)

– Cheerful (lighthearted, joyful)

– Responsible (dependable, reliable)

– Independent (self-reliant, sufficient)

– Broad-minded (open-minded, able to see other viewpoints)

– Polite (courteous, well mannered)

– Forgiving (willing to pardon others)

– Intellectual (intelligent, reflective, knowledgeable)

– Helpful (working for the welfare of others)

– Obedient (dutiful, respectful)

– Capable (competent, effective, skillful)

– Logical (consistent, rational, aware of reality)

– Clean (neat, tidy)

– Imaginative (daring, creative)

– Courageous (standing up for your beliefs, strong)

Hogan (1973) believes that moral behavior is determined by five factors: (1) Socialization: becoming aware as a child of society’s and parents’ rules of conduct for being good. (2) Moral

judgment: learning to think reasonably about our own ethics and deliberately deciding on our own

moral standards. (3) Moral feelings: the internalization of our moral beliefs to the degree that we feel shame and guilt when we fail to do what we “should.” (4) Empathy: the awareness of other people’s situation, feelings, and needs so that one is compelled to help those in need. (5) Confidence and knowledge: knowing the steps involved in helping others and believing that one is responsible for and capable of helping.

Today we facing so many problems like terrorism, poverty and population problem. It is necessary to inculcate moral values in curriculum. Education is an effective weapon. Education is a weapon, whose effect depends on who holds it is his handsand at whom it is aimed. (Joseph Stalin)

Curricular Activities:

Due to liberalization, industrialization and globalization rapid changes are occurring in almost all social sciences. The value possessed and their attitudes according to the changes should be known up to date vast changes are occurring in the education. So called philosophical foundations of India are declining day to day with the country in a state of social turbulence, the goals and functions of formal education need to be reassessed and updated. Through education we can change the world.

– By giving a place for moral values in the curriculum.

– Moral values can be explained through stories and illustrations.

– Through poetry, novel and stories we can inculcate moral values in the students.

– Role play of a good story in the lesson.

– Educate students through posters, advertisements and dramatizations; those are all a part

in the curriculum.

– By introducing a course on moral values as a part of its Master Degree in Developmental

Administration.

– Giving course training to students to develop moral values in the society.

– By educating citizen through direct contact by setting up local offices across the religion.

– First of all educate women in the society. Mother is the first teacher. Motivate every woman

to know about moral values through special course like “Gandhian Studies”.

“IF WEALTH IS LOST NOTHING IS LOST”

“IF HEALTH IS LOST SOMETHING IS LOST”

“IF CHARACTER IS LOST EVERYTHING IS LOST”

BEST OF ALL THINGS IS CHARACTER – FATHER OF INDIAN NATION MAHATMA GANDHI

Source by Naraginti Reddy

Boundary Issues – 5 Warning Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

Boundaries are one of the most critical components for establishing healthy relationships. Boundaries are the tools we use to establish who we are and how we want to be treated. Establishing boundaries is a sign of self-respect and ultimately teaches others to treat us with respect.

Yet boundaries are also a common source of conflict and tension. When you aren’t clear about your boundaries, it’s impossible for other people to recognize and respect your boundaries, which results in them inadvertently taking advantage of you. When your boundaries are violated, you feel a whole host of negative emotions, such as anxiety, irritation, guilt and anger. You may believe that you’re being taken advantage of or treated poorly; you may even begin to feel that you are worth less than other people.

The long-term effects of porous boundaries can be severe. You feel increasingly stressed, as you continually choose other people over yourself. You feel guilty for disrespecting yourself and letting other people impose on you. You become increasingly angry, irritable and resentful and find yourself unmotivated to participate in life, even falling into a deep depression. You may become so exhausted and consumed by others’ lives that you feel as if you have no life of your own.

The impact on you is merely the beginning. If you dismiss or bury your feelings — a common reaction among people who struggle to set boundaries — you’ll begin to resent the person who violated your boundaries, and your relationship will grow increasingly tense. A person with healthy boundaries learns to say “yes” without resentment and “no” without guilt.

However, boundaries may cause problems with some people in your life even when you are good at setting and protecting them. “Boundary crashers” are individuals who refuse to respect or even acknowledge a rule that another has set up. These people believe that their needs are more important than the rights of others to say what happens to their bodies, minds, emotions or lives. They will manipulate to get what they want, employing tactics like guilt, anger or force to ensure that their needs are met.

Are Your Boundaries Healthy?

If you’ve been living with unhealthy or nonexistent boundaries for most of your life, you may struggle to recognize whether your boundaries are healthy. Here are 5 warning signs for which to watch:

1. You feel like you are covering something up or keeping a secret. Not only is this a sign that your boundaries are unhealthy, but it’s also likely that you are enabling another person to engage in unhealthy or unproductive behavior. A classic, dramatic example is a woman who hides the physical abuse she suffers at her spouse’s hands by making up stories about how she bruised herself by falling down or running into a doorway. Yet secrets can much more mundane. For example, you might tell your neighbor that you’re cleaning your teenage son’s room because he’s been so busy with school and athletics, when in fact, he refuses to clean and you’ve decided it’s less stressful to do the work yourself.

2. You have to do something a certain way or modify your behavior so that someone else can continue an unproductive or unsafe behavior. For example, you must regularly work late and miss family obligations because a co-worker keeps missing her deadlines. Or you can’t turn on the television to watch your favorite morning news program because your husband is hung over after yet another late night carousing with friends at the local bar.

By modifying your behavior, you become an enabler — you make it possible for someone else to continue a negative behavior. Instead, you should establish and maintain your boundary. Doing so will cause the other person discomfort, perhaps enough that he or she would be motivated to examine and change the unproductive behavior.

3. You ignore your own discomfort, anger, anxiety or fear so that someone else can be happy and comfortable. For example, when your partner yells at you, do you request her to not yell at you and offer to talk when emotions aren’t as heated, or do you bite your tongue, figuring that it’s easier to swallow your anger at being treated disrespectfully vs. possibly angering her even more? Anger, anxiety, fear and other uncomfortable emotions are hard-wired into human beings to help us recognize when our boundaries are being violated. Ignoring your own uncomfortable emotions sends a signal — to yourself and to others — that you don’t respect yourself. It may work as a short-term strategy for avoiding conflict. But ultimately, it will lead to bigger problems.

4. You sacrifice your own goals, projects and self-care to help others. The root cause of boundary issues is fear. When you have a hard time saying “no,” it’s typically because you fear losing something, such as approval, status, friendship, future opportunities and the like. If you’ve reached the point of being resentful when people ask you to do things for them — even if they are things that should bring you joy — your boundaries are unhealthy and need to be toughened up.

5. You manipulate to get what you want. This warning sign will resonate with you if you regularly push or violate other people’s boundaries — that is, if you can be honest enough to admit it to yourself.

Manipulation comes in many forms. For instance, you might try getting others to feel guilty for not meeting your demands, such as the mother who tries to make her daughter feel bad for not coming home for the holidays. In some instances, you might find yourself flat-out telling others that they are responsible for you, your results and/or your feelings, such as the emotionally abusive spouse who says he wouldn’t have to yell if his wife wouldn’t make him so angry. You might also find yourself pouting or having a tantrum because you don’t get what you want or repeatedly bugging someone to give you want you want, even after they say no. You may even ridicule or shame others who attempt setting a boundary; after all, if they don’t like your behavior, it’s their problem.

If you regularly crash boundaries, it’s likely that you don’t have many meaningful relationships. The people in your life have a hard time trusting you, because you choose to manipulate rather than treating them with love and respect. It’s also likely that you’ve been told more than once — and perhaps even can admit to yourself — that you tend to be loud, obnoxious, pushy, rude or, on the flip side, quiet but passively aggressive.

Admitting that you are a boundary violator is difficult. It’s difficult to admit to things we don’t like to see. It’s difficult to admit that we’re afraid that we won’t get what we want. And it’s difficult to believe that you’re valuable enough that other people will love and care for you on their own, without you demanding the attention.

The realization that you are a boundary violator often brings up shame and guilt. You know that you haven’t treated people with respect, trust and kindness — the same way you’d like to be treated.

But being a boundary violator is not something to feel ashamed of, nor is having weak boundaries something about which you should be embarrassed. It’s simply the way that you learned to do life. You can change — if you want to. The first, and often hardest, step is admitting that you have boundary issues. Admitting the problem opens space to learn healthier ways to respond to the fears in your life.

Source by Steve Safigan

What Are the Key Principles of Speech Writing?

There are so many different speeches that you can write, fitting for a whole range of different events. Speeches can be written for weddings, for birthdays, civil ceremonies, graduations, funerals, anniversaries, even book launches! Most formal occasions provide an opportunity for a little speech!

Being tasked with the role of speech maker is scary! Whilst it can seem like a fun role initially, when it comes to you having to write down the speech, and worse still, delivering the speech, suddenly that fun idea becomes a reality, as you stand up and face a waiting audience. If you have to write a speech, either for yourself to read or for someone else to deliver, here are a few tips to help you on your way.

1. Sort out your research. If your speech is for a fun occasion, such as at a wedding or an anniversary party, then it is OK to be a little lenient with the truth to ensure you get a few giggles. But if the speech is say at your office’s annual review party, it needs to be technically correct. Protect yourself from raving on and on about the great annual turnover achieved that year by ensuring you know the real turnover figure first! The last thing you want to do is put your foot in it if the company’s experienced a downturn in the recession and half the people you’re preaching to have their jobs on the line! Make sure you know your facts before you start basing a speech on them.

2. It’s all in the planning! So as point 1 above suggests, ensure that you have spent a bit of time researching your speech subject, whoever or whatever that may be. But keep that research well tailored; stick to one or two key themes within your speech. Not only will this make your speech slicker, but it will also make it more memorable; both for you and for your audience.

3. Use real examples when highlighting a point in your speech. If your speech is formal, such as at a company launch, use examples to highlight sweeping statements about how creative the company is, or how it is built on a culture of education and further learning. Don’t just use wide, sweeping statements; make them personal to keep the speech as entertaining as possible. The same is true for informal speeches. Wedding guests want to hear funny stories about the bride and groom, birthday parties want to hear embarrassing moments that the guest of honour has experienced, and wedding anniversary parties want to hear about why and how the couple have been so successful in staying together for such a long time. To keep your guests happy and entertained, interweave in some examples that highlight those two key ideas you are putting forward in your speech.

4. Write a speech in the way that you (or the person you are writing it for) speak(s)! This will make it easier for the speech to be well delivered; as it will flow naturally off of the tongue. Similarly, if you write a speech out quite formally, you’ll end up delivering it this way, and so you may not successfully capture the tone that the event demands. The more conversational a speech sounds, the better the listeners will respond to it. A few tips to help you write down your speech in a conversational manner include:

– Keep your sentences short, snappy and simple

– Use contractions as you would in speech, such as ‘I’m’ and ‘we’re’

– Keep the language style in line with how you usually speak. Don’t use over complicated words to try to ‘sound’ sophisticated or clever. You may find that you end up stumbling on them.

– Read each iteration of your speech out loud so that you can really hear how it sounds each time you go to edit it.

Source by Joanne Draper